He said he wants our sex life to be more adventureous and he "wants me to be 'naughty.' " I need advice on how. (I am a Christian who has been married three years; I just turned 24). What suggestions do you ladies have?
2007-07-28 11:21:03 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok, I am no lady, but this is a question that a man should answer, I mean who better to answer this than a man right? basically he wants you to show him that you are in control. Turn the lights down and light some candles. Dress up in the most sexy outfit that you have and totaly seduce him. Tease him and tell him what you want to have done, but when you do it, only let him go so far.. make him touch you only in certain places for only so long, make him want you so bad that he cant stand it. He wants you to spank him... I kow it sounds Kinky, but thats what he wants. He wants you to touch yourself and let him watch. These are things that you may not be comfortable in doing but I promise that he will be a happy man. Give him some excitement. I know you are a christian, but my suggestion to you is to watch a porn flick. That wil give you some ideas besides what i have said that will excite your man. For a quick fix, just do as I have said previously and watch what happens. You will come up with your own ideas and soon it will more fun and enjoyable for the both of you. I hope this helps,
Joshua
2007-07-28 11:40:32 · answer #1 · answered by josh m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a sweet little Christian lady and being an adventurous lover do NOT mix. You need to step out of your little good Christian lady mode and give your husband what he needs. Many married couples have this problem. Men love a woman on top rather than lay there and make the man do all the work with missionary position. If I were you, I'd give that position a try. Get sex toys. Please him more than just have him please you. If being a Christian means that sex is bad, then your husband will eventually find another woman or leave you. Good luck!
2007-07-28 18:26:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should ask your husband his definition of "naughty" and then come back and ask. Even Christian couples can do things within the confines of their marriage and bedroom between the two of them and there is nothing wrong with that. He may need a bit of "spice" and you do want to be the one to give it to him..Do ask him first, because you haven't said if he wants to go outside the marriage or just make things more interesting. Nothing wrong with your have sexy lingerie and candlelight dinners and rose petals in the bed, role playing like he is someone else and you are also...like the maid and the postman..Something like that is just between a husband and wife and is not behaving in a manner that is not Christian. I think maybe if more women did this, hubby might not stray..But, if he is wanting something morally wrong, then you have to question what is going on in his mind, what has happened to him to make him 'change' if indeed he has. Has this been there all the time and you just didn't know it? Lots of things to think about but you do need to have a heart to heart with him.
2007-07-28 18:30:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on how he wants u to be naughty. If he wants someone else along with u, I would flat out say no. If he wants you just to be more creative in bed. Why not. I am a Christian too, but what you need to remember u are married. If thing don't change about your sex life he may go find someone else. Good luck
2007-07-28 18:30:03 · answer #4 · answered by monkey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You being a chirstan shouldnt affect your sex life as for me i have asked my wife the same thing and ours has improved alot the main thing to think about is you dont have to be naughty in public to be naughty for your husband he is looking for some more adventure probabially in that he wants to be surprised i dunno if you have kids or not but try this one night when he gets home from work have a easy dinner ready for you both to eat make sure you are dressed sexy in either lingere or like a sexy robe whichever you have and or feel more comfotable in dont cook desert and then take him back to the bedroom and let him eat a you sunday trust me that opened alot of doors in my and my wife's sex life and as you get more comfortable you will be open to more things and trust me it dosent hurt to get books on the subject karma sutra or anything like that that will improve it just whatever you do if he suggests bringing in another partner for like swap or threesums dont agree thats the fastest way to end a marrage
just my two cents
2007-07-28 18:28:06 · answer #5 · answered by Derk S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sex life can be more adventuroeous without being naughty. All you have to do is take control. You as the woman can set the pace and mood of the night. Just tease the heck out of him and make him your quest.
If you need more ideas just email me
2007-07-28 18:57:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think of it as a particular 'act'. Think of it as a style. You can turn any act into naughty with a look and attitude.
Try doing the same things you do but with the aggression of a starving dog with a juicy steak. Be the aggressor in bed. It's that simple.
2007-07-28 18:29:36 · answer #7 · answered by Mindlessfun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe be the one to initiate intimacy with him. Role play, try being more adventurous. Just because your a christian doesn't mean you can't have naughty sex.
2007-07-28 18:24:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You Christians, boy they must put a guilt trip on you.... sex has nothing to do with Christianity.
Go buy a book written by THE sex therapist in the country today.... Cheap, a best seller, and in paperback anywhere... For Each Other by Lonnie Barbach. Her other stuff is as well leader in the field.
2007-07-28 18:33:09 · answer #9 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK i have been in your spot my husband wants more from our sex life and says that i am not adventurous so let me know when you find out for sure
2007-07-28 18:27:18 · answer #10 · answered by cool mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋