i dont feel like he misses me. what should i do?

Question

So im out of state and i dont feel like my bf misses me. i try to tell myself that its all in my head but then i just think its wishful thinking. he says he misses me but i always say it first and he never texts or calls me unless i do it first. what do you think i should do?

Answer 1

You are spending time worrying about something that you cannot control. You cannot make him miss you or not miss you. He either does or he doesn't. He says he does, so why not just believe him? If he doesn't call or text, then he's not worrying if you miss him because he's secure in the relationship.

You are allowing another person to control your thoughts which ultimately immobilizes you. Worry will solve nothing. Society enforces the act of worry by making people feel guilty if they don't worry about something. "If you don't worry, you aren't a caring person".

So, to answer your question "what should I do", you should go swimming, call up some friends and go shopping, read a great book, have a 'pizza and movie night' with some friends, or anything else.

Take care.

Answer 2

Well, there is a saying that absence makes the heart grow fonder. However, I think when people are separated from each other, they can grow apart. He may be getting used to the idea of your being away. If I were you, I would try and not call him or text him for a week - it will be hard, but see if you can do it. If he does not try to contact you during that week, then maybe you need to find out if he wants to see other people. It's also possible that your bf just isn't the 'hearts & flowers' type. If you desire that type of person in a relationship, you may need to look elsewhere. You absolutely cannot change anyone.

I'm making the assumption that you're away for a period of time (for college, etc.). You really need to focus on yourself and make some new friends and maybe even find some new guys to hang out with. Don't be too dependent on him because he alone cannot make you happy. Hope this helps...I have been there and done that. It's a hard lesson learned, but when you settle down with the right man, you will understand what I'm saying. Good luck!

Answer 3

Men are weird like that. I dont think it means he doesnt miss you, but its not like his life revolves around you either. Especially since your not even in the same state. Unless you guys can find away to be together more often, you may wanna look elsewhere.

Answer 4

You can only go by what he says until you absolutely find out the truth. Talk to him.

Answer 5

What ever you heart tells you to do.
Listen to it ... and don't be afaid of the answers.
Find kind solutions once you've reconcilliated with your heart.

Answer 6

Tell him, not us!