a friend of yours told you her husband seemed to be becoming distant and cranky most of the time lately. What would you tell her to do? She knows for sure her husband is not cheating so don't bother with any responses like that. Serious answers only please.
2007-07-28 10:10:42 · 9 answers · asked by ~Angel Eyed Pookie~ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nothing to do with work...they work in the same place. They are expecting a baby around the same time we are, but she said he seems very excited by it all.
2007-07-28 10:17:46 · update #1
As i said she is pregnant so no wine and they do have another child and this one that she is pregnant with was planned as well. I asked and she said their bills are getting paid.
Part of it could be about the not being where he wanted to be at this age, 30's, but they are working on that aside from the regular full time jobs. Maybe it's just her hormones from pregnancy?? Or maybe he is having hormonal ssues too? lol I don't know.
2007-07-28 10:38:50 · update #2
I like the answers that Delux and Krimis gave. I don't think I could say it any better than that, so I am just going to point my finger toward thier answers.
2007-07-30 03:02:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a whole lot to go on but they may be having money problems, he could be bored with his job, life in general. There's may be no excitement in their lives or his. You don't say how old he is but he could be disappointed in where he is in his life right now thinking he would be doing something more substantial about now. It could be a million things. It could be depression. Maybe they should try counseling OR a weekend alone with each other at a motel near a beach and bring with them sex toys and oils and drink some wine and get rid of their inhibitions and get kinky. How's their sex life by the way?. Guys are sexual beings and most guys never get enough and most wives are bored with sex with their husbands. Why is that? Their should be a class for men how to treat their wives so that the women will be eager to be open to their men. I hope this helps.
2007-07-28 17:32:51 · answer #2 · answered by blastabuelliac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that something has made him distant and cranky! I mean, lets try not to over psychoanalyze this. I doesn't always have to be depression, BiPolar disorder, ADD or any other disease of the month club garbage. Tell me, has anything ever made you cranky? Would you like it if someone pointed the finger at you and screamed PMS? Someone (maybe her) angered him. He'll get over it. Just do what wives are supposed to do when hubby is a bit ticked off. Cranky never lasts forever.
2007-07-28 17:24:39 · answer #3 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He could be suffering from major depression. It causes people to display these symptoms when normally they are upbeat and easy to get along with. He could also be having a lot of pressure at work and finding it difficult to separate his emotions regarding work from his family life. She needs to ask him what is bothering him. If he really doesn't have an answer then I'd say depression is likely the cause and it is time for a check up at the doctor's office to make sure there is nothing physically wrong contributing to the problem.
2007-07-28 17:16:45 · answer #4 · answered by DK Julie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are as many reasons a man might become distant and cranky as there are stars in the sky.
the only thing you can do (and the only thing you should to TO THE EXCLUSION OF ANYTHING ELSE!) is to encourage her to keep the lines of communication open and seek professional help if the situation seems serious.
what you need to do as a friend is to do the same - to be there to listen to her, to let her know that whatever the reason for the problem, whatever the situation that arises, you'll be there to support her, NOT TO GIVE ADVICE.
(unless you have the initials, PhD, after your surname... but then why are you asking us??)
2007-07-28 17:21:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the responsibility of caring for a new life, many people take time to reflect on their life. They often wonder, have I accomplished the things I always wanted to do, will I be a good role model, do I have the means to care for this new person, etc. I think this is normal. I would tell my friend to give him space to reflect, but be there when he needs her.
2007-07-28 17:26:06 · answer #6 · answered by Cutie-Pie-GG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be depressed. Many guys manifest depression through increased irritability and anger and brooding.
He could be under a lot of pressure at his work and isn't comfortable exposing those concerns to his wife (a lot of guys have a need to be seen as uber competent and in control)
2007-07-28 17:15:35 · answer #7 · answered by hunter621 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband has to know about the physiological changes in you to cope with your habit. it may only be stress related and all it takes is for you to give him a bit more space and time, even if the urge for the contrary may be more compelling
2007-07-28 19:46:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't tell her what to do at all. she has to figure it out by herself. you could offer suggestions but that's it.
2007-07-28 17:15:05 · answer #9 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋