Or that the world isn't gonna revolve around you? I'm not trying to make the world revolve around me or cater to me. I have special needs. & I get more verbal attacks since I'm mentally disabled.
& has anyone ever told you that the world doesn't have to understand or care about your disability?
That makes me feel like I don't have a right to live. I'm disabled & deserve the right to special accommodations.
2007-07-28 09:48:47 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ People with Disabilities
I sort of go both ways. I hate when people treat me like a baby just because I'm mentally ill, or blame all my problems on my mental illness. At the same time I hate when people assume I'm making it up, or just out to get attention. Or that I should be happy I don't have 'their problems'. I like people who treat me like a normal human being, who has their downfalls and unique issues just like everyone else. I like people who take the time to try and understand me.
2007-07-28 10:17:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You're right with that last statement; but you have to realize that not everyone is going to KNOW that you have a disability. I answered your question about the switching seats thing, and I was in no way trying to insult you. Did the man on the bus know of your disability? Probably not; if someone doesn't know you have a condition, how are they supposed to accommodate your needs? I do understand your disability, and yeah, I do care. Your situation would be extremely frustrating for anyone to be in. The fact still stands though, that people are generally not going to help you out unless you give them a valid reason. If you're not willing to share that reason, (I can imagine it'd be difficult to explain to people who don't understand) you aren't going to get the outcome you want (and deserve). As hard as it may be, that's the way the world works.
2007-07-28 10:02:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a TBI. I don't look like I have a disability, but I do. I have a lot of trouble with organizational skills, so my flat always looked as if the feds searched it or the aftermath of an explosion. I am tired of people telling me that if I try, I can clean up/ straighten up. (I'm now a client with a TBI agency who has an aid and ILS worker who helps and teaches me organizational skills several times a week; it's very slow.)
2007-07-28 12:23:11 · answer #3 · answered by Keselyű 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking of them as special accommodations and think of them as accommodations for equal access and people might feel better about providing them.
No one is going to cater to you. But they may very understand that you should have the same opportunity as they have. And for you to have the same opportunity you may need things differently than they do.
Explain why you need something different simply and msot people are more than happy to comply. That is my experience as a person with physical ad sensory disabilities and my son's with cognitive ones.
2007-07-28 15:42:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
My parents told me that all the time , so I wouldn't develop a victim mentality and feel sorry for myself. They pushed me to do and be the best to my abilities that I could be , nothing more ,nothing less. And my parents taught me to advocate for me and to not rely on them because they weren't always going to be around to do that.
Thank God they did. I live independently, I travel independently, I do my own cooking , housework, washing etc. I've gotten a good education and I've been told I make my disability look effortless. I laughed at the person who said that to me but said it isn't effortless.
I'm sure he/she meant it as a compliment.
I do get tired of people telling me how "inspiring " I am . I'm not that inspiring, I just do what I have to do to live in dignity and equity in society.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself, accept yourself as you are , do the best with the strengths you have to offer and understand the limits of your weaknesses and boundaries.
People with intellectual impairments get alot more funding than most other disabilities do, there are more community services available for those with intellectual impairments. Take advantage of what there is available to you and quit feeling sorry for yourself.
Eleanor Roosevelt once said no one can make you feel inferior unless you give them your permission. Don't allow them to make you feel inferior.
2007-07-28 13:30:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have been told the world don't revolve arround me.
I got told as a child that I made a big drama over nothing.
2007-07-28 15:57:15 · answer #6 · answered by jobees 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do have a right to live. These people who make these rude, uncalled for comments do not rule the world either. Nor do they speak for the rest of us in the world or the rest of on
Y!A.
2007-07-28 10:17:18 · answer #7 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I've been told the world doesn't revolve around me. People are usually envious or adversed to helping people with their problems beause they feel that their problems are bigger. Most people are selfish really.
2007-07-28 12:08:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, I get that stuff sometimes. The truth is, it does take a little extra effort to help us, but it's a moral issue, and some people just aren't moral and want to find reasons to attack others.
2007-07-28 09:52:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well Queen-l think you should get the best anyway- if the Queen cant get it-Who can?- the cheek- tell them- "One is Not Amused" before you give the Royal wave. xx
2007-07-28 10:09:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋