I am preggo with my 4th child by my husband and we were just talking and he is freaked out about the whole 3rd trimester thing and sex which is understandable blah blah blah........but then he is like well me and you at this point are like brother and sister...........i was sitting there like what did he just say??? that has to be not good....so i said what do you mean he is like oh i am only kidding............i don't think so though and if that is the case then....you know what happens next...eithter divorce or someone is cheating.....what does everyone think of this?
2007-07-28 08:24:50 · 26 answers · asked by blondiebella 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hahaha maybe he just meant that the way you are guys are so close.
Unless he said it in a mean way I wouldnt take it as anything more.
2007-07-28 08:28:14 · answer #1 · answered by Lizzie A 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think.... that he meant that since you and he had been together for so long that the emotional closeness was enough for him. Though if it's your fourth child I don't understand why he was freaked with the whole sex thing unless this pregnancy is different. I don't have enough information and wasnt' there to analyze it.
Knowing that hormones affect reaction and emotions during pregnancy, wait for another day when things are calmer and try asking him again. Explain that not understanding what he meant made you upset. See where that goes?
2007-07-28 08:38:15 · answer #2 · answered by laborcat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You two have some talking to do.
Why is he freaked out about sex during the 3rd trimester? You've had 3 other kids, that's PLENTY of time to learn that sex during pregnancy is okay (as long as you feel okay).
Don't let this sit on the back burner, find out what's on his mind and if there's an issue that needs to be dealt with, then work on dealing with it.
Good luck!
2007-07-28 08:35:38 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you saying that you won't have sex during the third trimester? Sex is totally safe and fine then, unless your doctor has specifically told you that you have a problem otherwise. It's great to make love right up til the baby comes! Especially for you, regarding your hormones and psyche!
2007-07-28 12:16:30 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that maybe you should really sit down alone and talk about this. You are preg, and that can cause your hormones to change (this you well know) and altough that was a thoughtless thing for him to say, maybe he just ment that you are that close to each other. Men usually mean one thing but then they open thier mouths and ruin a good statement.
If this still worrys you then get help. Talk to a friend or a precher or just keep your eyes open to any other chanes that you might find. Just understand that if you are looking.....then don't be surprized if you find things that you don't like.
2007-07-28 08:37:47 · answer #5 · answered by Brandi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When my Fiance and I go through droughts of not having sex him and I will both joke around and say we're like brother and sister. And sometimes when we play wrestle we'll say that too. So I think you guys need to spark up that flame again...just as we did and everything is fine once again.
2007-07-28 10:17:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might have been his way of getting it out there...he's feeling a little bit left out and ignored sexually. That's a normal thing to happen, though. My husband has told me in the past that he feels more like my brother than a husband, and that made sex stop for awhile! *LOL* Don't let this happen to you! If there's anything you can do to keep sex going (though not intercourse), I say remind him that you're not his sister in little ways. Maybe it'll help keep his insecurities at bay.
2007-07-28 08:29:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think that you might be overracting a little. Maybe, he did mean it as a joke. I can't see how this could lead to divorce. Being pregnant can make you alot more insecure.
2007-07-28 09:32:15 · answer #8 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are pregnant. Your chemistry is outta wack. No matter what he says it will offend you. Pay it no mind. I get the impression that he's hinting that love making isnt happening as much as he may prefer at the moment.
2007-07-28 09:19:40 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it think your husband was thoughtless and rude,tell him next time to wear a condom,oh i tell you i would love to see a man have a baby,i would get front row tickets for that,and i could be the one to say,just breath honey,does it hurt,oh my look at those stretch marks you have,honey are you having a mood swing,i could go on,tell him if you could trade places with him,you would,tell him to be supportive,not an a hole
2007-08-01 04:12:12 · answer #10 · answered by tnsupermomwhit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to have a serious talk with him. my husband once said we were like roomates, rather than husband & wife,then within a few months he had an affair. I don't want to alarm you, he may not have realized what he said, but you should still try & talk about your situation with him.
2007-07-28 11:24:03 · answer #11 · answered by kah35 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋