I have been married for five years. The woman in the cubicle next to mine and I have been working on a project for several months now and have got into the habit of having lunch together. We have become very attched to each other. She is also married. She kissed me on the cheek once. Then a real kiss. Eventually we made out, with fondling outside the clothes, but here lately inside our clothes. I really want to go farther but don't want to cheat. How far can we go without it being cheating?
2007-07-28 07:18:31 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nobody seems to understand. We have not had sex, not even oral, but I have put my mouth on her breast. She is just so hot, and my wife is a good woman put is just letting herself go. She has put on 53 and a half pounds since we go married, and doesn't seem to care. And my friend's husband is a fool who ignores her pretty much. We're just help each other "arrive", but we have not had sex.
2007-07-28 07:33:30 · update #1
You are a PIG!!! You were cheating the moment the thought poped into your head and you actully intented to follow through. Men like you are jerks and I hope your wife finds out. (Yes, I am bitter and you can read my asked questions to understand why) My husband did this to me. Do you understand how that hurts a woman? And what kind of real woman would allow you to cheat let alone cheat herself. I think that both of you should leave your partners and hook up. you are made for each other! Leave and let your wife find someone that is good for her.
2007-07-28 07:23:30 · answer #1 · answered by Brandi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have already cheated!!!!
Once you are intimate with someone, whether it be a kiss, fondling, intercourse....you have crossed the line and cheated.
Honestly, you should both be very ashamed of yourselves. You are colleagues and should never have crossed the line of having a professional relationship regardless of whether or not you are married. Since you are married (both of you) you definantly should never have crossed that line.
My advice to you is to be honest with your wife and let her know what happened. Allow her to decide where your marriage will go from this point. What you did to her was unfair and unfaithful. She has the right to know. Keeping secrets from her is just as bad as cheating on her!!
From a professional standpoint, you need to talk with this woman and let her know that you two never should have crossed that line and that this can not go any further since both of you are married. Hopefully she will understand and agree.
You need to clear the air before this becomes such a tangled web that there is no way out!
2007-07-28 14:24:49 · answer #2 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The moment you do something that you dont want your wife to find out about is cheating. The line has been crossed simply by your wanting to do more than you already have-emotional cheating can be just as damaging as the actual act of cheating. How would you feel if your wife was doing this to you? I have cheated in past relationships and once that trust is broken it can never be regained. (simply because you, as the cheater know you can get away with it.) But you've already cheated on your wife, so now its time to fess up before she finds your post on here.
2007-07-28 14:35:22 · answer #3 · answered by Brandi F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have also done that. Hate to tell you but when you kissed her you cheated. The only way its not cheating is if you wife knows and does not mind. I doubt that will be the case. Working relationships often can end up like that. It did for me and lasted for about 2yrs. It's not easy so you better really think about it.
2007-07-28 14:23:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating occurs before any physical contact is made. If you've thought about it, then you're guilty. You are cheating. You need to remove yourself from the situation because your wife doesn't deserve it. You need to get reassigned to another department or something. You are cheating!!!!
2007-07-28 14:22:51 · answer #5 · answered by Gypsydayne 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry buddy, but the minute that you physically touched her you cheated, you kissed each other. Wouldnt you be mad if your wife made out with another man?
2007-07-28 14:24:17 · answer #6 · answered by Candi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already crossed the cheating line. If you have to hide it from your wife, then you're cheating, buddy.
2007-07-28 14:20:48 · answer #7 · answered by Kyle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude if you found out your girl or wife was doing this with a guy at work how p 'o'd would you be? this is definitely cheating. if your relationship is good you need to STOP.
2007-07-28 14:21:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as close as you can get before the hands and lips start exploring and also the old addage a stiff p k has no concience!
2007-07-28 14:21:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already cheated.You should tell your wife, before she finds out.
2007-07-28 14:53:12 · answer #10 · answered by Yulia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋