I am 37 yrs old. I grew up in a the G&L community since I was 5. I am considered 1st generation. I am not going to say it was easy. I had to lie to people about why lived with my mom and my "aunt". I grew up during the onset of AIDS, listening to how it was the gay cancer etc. I think that children of G&L's have it much easier todaythan in the 70-80's. While the G&L community is my culture, I dont fit in to either gay or straight groups. Is there any kind of group or place where there are other people like me? Sometimes I just feel like I dont fit anyplace. I feel like I'm always looking out the window at "the other side" of my life.
If your a closed minded, chaw chewing redneck, bible thumping, holier than though A$$hole keep your thoughts to yourself. Dont wast your time or mine.
If you can give me honest input and understand my situation, plz answer and share your experience or a web site other than PFLAG. I am not PFLAG, I am the adult child of a lesbian couple
2007-07-28 07:04:37 · 6 answers · asked by grapelady911 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I too, am an adult child of a lesbian home, however, I find that I have friends in both the straight and gay world. Because I grew up in a home with such acceptance, I find that I am comfortable in both worlds.
At 47 years old I found no help from PFLAG and other support organizations because they were not around (or well known if they were) when I was growing up.
I do not choose friends and associates by their sexual orientation, but by the things we have in common and their personal beliefs and values. No matter how "nice" the person was, I would never willingly associate with someone who lies, cheats, beats a spouse, causes fights...you get the idea.
I think that first, you must be comfortable with yourself and your life choices. I know that my strengths are honesty, integrity, an ability to work hard and remain focused on a job. I am kind to my friends, and enjoy a wide array of relationships with a variety of people.Try making your friends from the people who have the same interests as you.
If you'd like to start by e-mailing me, we can compare our notes of growing up with "two moms" in the early 70's. I would be more than happy to write back and forth. Maybe we can discover something that either uncovers the support group you seem to be searching for, or even something that allows you to be more comfortable in either world.
Our family was one of the families chosen to be in a documentary film to be shown to judges in family custody cases when a parent is either gay or lesbian and the straight parent tries to take the kids away because the homosexual parent is "unfit". The movie is called, "In The Best Interest Of The Children".
2007-07-28 08:25:19 · answer #1 · answered by E_Tard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot give an educated answer to this because I am not in the situation. All I know is that feeling you must fit in may be why you are having trouble. You are your own person. You don't need a group to reinforce that. Take pride in that your parents are lesbians. It is accepted moreso nowadays and you can be proud that you are 1st generation. You may be able to help others that are in your situation with your experiences.
Other than that I say be yourself and don't look through a window or on the "other side" you will miss what is over here.
2007-07-28 14:15:33 · answer #2 · answered by The Gay Argentian Seal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also the adult child of a lesbian couple. I am 26. I am not the exact same as you, meaning that I am also a lesbian :) , I came out when I was 18 and not in school anymore .. There weren't any groups or anything for me to belong to as I was growing up or even now as the adult child of a GLBT Family. Only groups that are available for me now is because I myself am a lesbian. I really don't know of any places for you to go, thats why I started my own organization here in my town .. its for GLBT Parents and their children, it is geared more toward children that are smaller and currently growing up but there are a few people I know that have grown children also. Like I said, I don't know of any sites or groups that I could tell you about for you to belong to but you are more than welcome to talk to me anytime....
2007-07-28 14:27:49 · answer #3 · answered by annelizabeth81 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you will always find good support from the Gay community...if its only just friends. To me friends make a big difference in how easy or hard life can be. I would try to just make friends, but you dont neccisarrily have to indulge in the gay scene. They can make you feel better as you probably can relate to them since you had gay parents. You sound normal just be yourself and things will fall into place...Thanks for sharing your story....and good luck.
2007-07-28 14:16:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
http://hrc.org/generationeq/
This link has some info about youth of gay parents. I can't think of many other places. I have heard of some while watching LOGO but their web site just promotes themselves not the community, it seems.
2007-07-28 14:10:13 · answer #5 · answered by Paddington Bear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are your own person who needs to stop identifying with your upbringing they had their own issues first stop living in the past,stop feeling sorry for yourself,stop having so much fear try new things and places.most families are dis functional so know that in brace who you are and live but first get in touch with God he has helped me
2007-07-28 14:19:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋