We have been married for ten years and just a had our son. He always has worked a lot of hours. Ever since i' ve had my son, him working so much bothers me more. He owns his business and is there from 7:30 am to 9:00 pm, Monday through Friday. He also visits his mom every Sunday. I feel frustrated and lonely. I've talked with him on several occasions and he just don't understand. I feel as if I'm married to someone, but not really! He gets upset every time I mention it to him. He says that i'm ungrateful and that I don't appreciate him. I'm frustrated and don't know what else to do?
2007-07-28 06:06:16 · 12 answers · asked by soonie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I hear you there. And I sympathize. My boyfriend works about the same hours as your husband. We each have a child from a previous marriage. His son only comes over once a week and my son sees his dad twice a week. On the nights when there is no children here he usually has to work. He gets like 1 day off every three weeks. What I do is make the most of the time we do have together, which is late evenings and early mornings. It has to be hard with a new baby. Talk to him and tell him he is going to miss out on your son being a baby and believe me that time flies by! Also read the book "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff in Love" It helps me to this day immensely. Good luck!
2007-07-28 06:14:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I probably would be saying the exact same thing 15 years ago. What's so funny is that now, I wished he would work, work, work and let me have time to get some things done. It sounds like your husband is a very responsible man who is simply working hard to provide for his wife and son. The more you attack him with this the more trapped he probably feels between job and home. When you have a child, women tend to get these protective maternal instincts and men get into this provision mode. You and your son just enjoy each others company during the day and make daddy feel special and loved when he gets home. In a few years, your son will probably be wanting to hang out with dad on the job.
2007-07-28 13:52:12 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs.Blessed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is working very hard to provide for you and the child.
Maybe you feel lonely, but how would you feel if he was a lazy guy that didn't want to work and layed around the house all day watching tv?
You wouldn't be lonely any more.
Be thankful you are with a hard working, faithful man and see what you can do to pitch in and help.
Make his business the BOTH of yours.
2007-07-28 13:54:00 · answer #3 · answered by Mr R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! i feel like i wrote this question. my husband owns a wrecker biz and storage lot and he works non-stop. so i understand how you feel. i think that he has his priorities messed up. maybe you should tell him that you do appreciate everything he is doing and has done for his family but that you need him for more things than just financial stability. you love him and want him to spend time w/ you and your son. My husband started spending more time w/ us when i explained that whenever he dies people will say i wish he hadn't worked so much i would have liked to go fishing w/ him, walk on the beach, go camping, etc. maybe you can go to his business and help out over there w/ him doing paperwork, answering the phones, so you can spend time w/ him during the day. i hope everything works out for you.
2007-07-28 13:16:41 · answer #4 · answered by michele d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he owns his own business, is it where you can do some work with him? Maybe keep the books for him. If you could spend more time with him maybe even take the baby there in a playpen while you do some work he will see that he is missing out on some family time. You could save both of you some money by working for him.
2007-07-28 13:17:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make saturday a date night for the two of you so you all can reconnect and also see about him cutting down on the hours at work. Go to his mothers with him on sundays.
If all else fails seek counseling.
2007-07-28 13:14:46 · answer #6 · answered by his wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yell him you want less material things, sell your home by a cheaper house, sell the car get a good used on, so he does not have to work and can be there more.Tell him you would rather have HIM than "stuff".
2007-07-28 13:38:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh ,honey trust me I know exactly what u r going through!!!!Its rough at times but just know that he is doing this for you and your son.It took me some getting used to but eventually he will slow down.just let him know how you feel.I have been with this guy for 16 years and right now I feel that I am single because I rarely see him.
Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Hang in there.I know its hard!!!!!!!
2007-07-28 13:15:20 · answer #8 · answered by flavagirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need an attitude adjustment*.. You realize to be successful it is necessary to put in those hours for you and your son*.. A man like that needs to be appreciated and cherished by you, or you could end up losing him to someone else*...Wake up*...
2007-07-28 15:48:57 · answer #9 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start cheating on him my husband the same way and I cheats on him with different guys.
2007-07-28 13:49:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋