We have been dating for two years (today is our anniversary)... :'-( and we've been having SO many issues and struggles... too many to list here. A lot of our recent problems have to do with my fiance wanting to get too involved in my child support issues and my ex. My ex is really trying to do his best and be a good dad to our six year old son and we just updated our child support. From 250/month to 625/month. Granted, my ex has been making 40,000/yr for the last two years and didn't report it, so he's been jipping us of money our son deserves for two years, but it's fixed now, and I just want to be civil with him for my son's sake. My fiance just wants to "slaughter" him for what he did. I think he (my fiance) will come around, but it's causing quite a few issues with us. I love him so much and he loves me, no doubt about it, but I suggested taking a break to clear our minds. He's kind of leaving it up to me. I'm so scared I'll lose him! Is this a bad idea? I'm so confused!!!!
2007-07-28
05:22:17
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A lot of my friends think I should just drop him like a bad habit b/c they've seen all the hard stuff I've been through with him... but they also don't know all the details. It's frustrating b/c I feel like I may be basing my decision on what my friends think and I don't want to just take their advice when they are somewhat blind. They all know I'm considering a break and they'll probably be super annoyed with my if I decide to not do "the break"... Help please! I'm so confused and scared and missing my baby... I just want to make sure we're in this for the long haul. I don't want to be another divorce statistic. We've been engaged for six months and we haven't set any dates yet. Is this strange too? I wish I just had a huge sign with the answer posted on it for me. I've been praying a lot about it, and I just can't come to a conclusion... Any advice/suggestions will be greatly appreciated!!!
2007-07-28
05:27:21 ·
update #1
To clear up a couple of things here: I was never married to my son's father. I got pregnant at 18, and he left me when we found out. He wasn't around again until my son was almost 4 years old. So I have never been married, and the reason I believe marriage is important is I believe that sort of committment (if God is involved) is sacred, and something I want. I just don't want it in bad timing or with a man God does not have prepared for me. And the thing is, my fiance feels just as strongly about this as I do. We talked some more this afternoon on the phone and we're both confused. We both think we want to do what's best for our relationship, even if that means a break, but when we think about taking a break, we both feel like we're going to vomit.. it's such a frustrating situation. I don't know what to do. Maybe we'll just work things out. I sure love this man, and he sure loves me. And anything worth having is going to take some diligent work.. Maybe I'm wrong... who knows?
2007-07-28
11:16:56 ·
update #2
Also, I REALLY don't think my fiance thinks I'm going to get back with my ex. He KNOWS how much that is NOT a possibility... yuck... and besides all that, my ex is married with another son anyway.. I don't think it's a fear of infidelity with my fiance... really highly doubt it anyway....
2007-07-28
11:20:25 ·
update #3