I must have asked the Q wrong. everyone thinks i was asking if im a good person. what i meant was, what kinda effect do u think it had on the guy ?? and is that a good way of rejecting him.
2007-07-28 04:13:38 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i mean by telling him if he contacts me again ill email our sexual emails to his wife
2007-07-28 04:14:17 · update #1
i would hope if a husband is told back of or i'm forwarding the emails that he would back off. if he's stupid enough to pursue after that by all means foward away!
guys who are so blatantly cheating need to get caught
2007-07-28 04:16:51 · answer #1 · answered by nataliexoxo 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You shouldn't do it out of revenge, because that's just a selfish reason. Sit down and think seriously about the consequences of what you're thinking of doing, and what the possible outcome can be. Will it make you feel better to screw him over like this, or will it cause longer term issues because the fallout might rebound onto you? Think about what decision may be best for you, because you're the one that has to live with it. Just don't forget that the messenger usually gets shot. Consider other options as well: Is it your place to tell her? Maybe not. Maybe if you know someone that knows her, it might be better to let a friend or family member tell her gently, instead of having "the other woman" approach her directly. I personally feel that people deserve full disclosure when it comes to a relationship, so all parties can make informed decisions about how they wish to proceed in the future. For those that are saying that the wife and children may be hurt, what about the fact that he's already hurting his family with his behavior? Ignorance is bliss, up until you realize that it's been going on for years, you've been completely duped, and everyone already knows it and didn't tell you. That happy family he supposedly has is actually a lie, but the wife doesn't know it yet. If she chooses to stay with him or not, at least she would know the truth and be able to make the decision with her eyes wide open. If their relationship survives, it may be all the stronger for having weathered this storm. Who knows? But in her place, would you want to know, or remain in "happy" ignorance? Obviously it's not good to get involved with anyone that is already taken, regardless of their supposed status. However, you're only human, and everyone makes mistakes. You've learned a hard lesson, so I don't see why you should be lectured more by people that don't even know you.
2016-05-21 01:25:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tried to go and read your previous question so that I could give a fully informed opinion, but your questions and answers are marked private.
So, based on what I see here, you are an immoral game player. Selfish, immature, and likely to always feel you paid too much for what you got in life.
You had cybersex with the guy and now you want to reject him. A good way to do that is to stop emailing him and to stop opening his emails.
I am not defending him, because he is married and that makes him a rat for cheating on his wife. However, your desire to get back at him, for whatever your reasons are, without regarding the feelings of a person you may not know and in effect using her as an instrument of revenge, makes you a miserable human being. You've violated the woman enough.
Get ready for a string of miserable outcomes in your life. What goes around comes back to you.
2007-07-28 05:47:19 · answer #3 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why are you emailing a married man to begin with?
If you are so interested all of a sudden to reject him, tell him in writing to leave you alone, document it. Tell him if he contacts you one more time then you will file a harrassment suit against him.
You need to stop contacting him all together after that. And don't mess with married men again. I'm sure you are not the first woman this man has "cheated" on his wife with; you are probably just one of several.
2007-07-28 04:49:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it probably didn't have much affect on him at all. Maybe scared him for the short term. But, if he's willing to cheat he's not that concerned about getting caught.
And no, it's not a good way of rejecting him. After you were willing to violate his marriage and hurt his wife by doing so, you make your moral stand on your ability to rub his wife's nose in the fact that you and he are sexually immoral? And you want applause and approval for that behavior?
Two wrongs don't make a right.
2007-07-28 04:39:17 · answer #5 · answered by penhead72 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Cheating is cheating. IMs and emails are still considered cheating on an emotional level.
Why would you mess around, even through email, with a married man. That right there tells me what kind of person you are.. but I don't think those types of words are permitted on here.
2007-07-28 04:32:11 · answer #6 · answered by Katty 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If he's married why were you sending him sexual emails to begin with? You did say you would send "our" sexual emails to his wife. After sending emails of that nature you decide to reject him?
2007-07-28 04:17:31 · answer #7 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He rejected you. Your response was out of anger and if followed through with will only get you in trouble as well since you agreed to the immoral behavior.
2007-07-28 04:37:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Oh Genius,your plan is like taking his manhood and sticking it in a pack of ice ouch!!!.Now "you've got mail" has an unintended consequence.Now everytime his wife gets on the computer and he hears YOU'VE GOT MAIL,he starts to say a few hail Marys hoping to survive another day.Bravo!!!
xxxxxx
2007-07-28 04:43:28 · answer #9 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I dont think there was a right way you could have asked that question
2007-07-28 04:45:23 · answer #10 · answered by Marsh 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋