I have been in a relationship with this guy for about a year and a half. We got engaged around Christmas and planned to be married this September. Now things just seem to be getting bad. He chooses his friends over me and if I say or do something that is wrong to him, I get treated like a 4 year old. He gets mad if I have an opinion about anything. If he does not get his way he gets mad. He will not take blame for anything he says or does. We are at the point in which we argue everyday. I am tired of it, but I do love him. If anyone has advice, please let me know it. By the way we are both turning 30 soon...
2007-07-28 03:28:19 · 11 answers · asked by Shelly S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know you don't want to hear this, but I suggest time apart. These kinds of behaviors only get worse.
I would also suggest that you do an internet search on narcissistic personality disorder and see if he fits the criteria. If so, run away.
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2007-07-28 03:33:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not think you can change him once you are married. He may change but not necessarily for the better. This sounds like a losing situation to me. With the information you have given, in spite of the fact that you love him, I think you should get out while it is free. Divorce is expensive. Otherwise your option is to stay with him and expect this kind of treatment for the duration of your marriage. Is that really what you want? I suspect you are a capable young woman who is better off on her own than attaching herself to a selfish, immature man. Love doesn't last long under the circumstances you describe. If you are totally alone in this world, with no family to support you, then you need to consider getting yourself a job and some additional education to boost your self esteem and increase your odds of finding a better candidate for a husband. Good luck to you.
2007-07-28 03:44:16 · answer #2 · answered by Granny Judy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
advice
try and remember what it was like when you first fell in love wanted no one else around, felt like alll you did was live and breathe for each other couldnt keep you hands off each other let alone share each other with friends or family?
go bsck and start again one day at a time, plan a relaxing evening wear something sexy make a date and follow through you be the aggressor!! he will surely follow, plan on him visiting with his friends only once a week for bowling golf or just a nite playing and drinking with the boys but when he comes home really wow him and let him know what he was missing , and he will not be looking to hang with the boys nextweek worked for me
2007-07-28 03:37:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself one question: Since you've been engaged, what has he and life with him been like? Do you see yourself having life like this for the rest of your days as married person. If not, think of jumping ship now. Remember love is not war and right now you seem to be in Baghdad relationship wise
2007-07-28 03:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by Kemo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all if you dont htink things are working then you can try fix it
try communicating more about how you feel and what you think.
try talk thiings over and understand each other more and listen to what each other have to say.
you say you love him..
do you or are you just saying that
you dont want to get married and then get divorced 3 weeks later.
trust your instincts and if he isnt the man for you then he just isnt.
good luck :D
2007-07-28 03:34:04 · answer #5 · answered by sport loving steph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shelly---Shelly---Shelly---Prince Charming is a bird brain dud.. Give back the engagement ring. If he wants explaination ---say nothing and walk out...I guess you live together --- 30 day notice of moving to the person who is not signed on the lease... ... He moves or you move because you live together... No more benefits....Sorry...
2007-07-28 03:45:13 · answer #6 · answered by Gerald 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's treating you like that already, the time to get out was yesterday.
Mind you, I haven't heard his side of the story.
If you fight all the time as it is, and you aren't even married yet, the deck is stacked against you.
2007-07-28 04:01:18 · answer #7 · answered by Pagan Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually by the time the concept or question comes into your mind...'should I end a relationship' it should have already been ended.
2007-07-28 03:36:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to clear the things first, if not so then end a relation.
2007-07-28 03:55:30 · answer #9 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I KNOWIN HER EVERY FILING HOW IS SHE ACT ABOUT WITH MY RELATION SHIP IF SHE IS WELL IWILL CONTINUE
2007-07-28 03:35:37 · answer #10 · answered by abdul r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋