I will be married 20 years the 8th of August. Last year my husband was falling for a girl he worked with. They didnt do anything cause I found out and well lets say taught both them a lession. Anyways, things to me seem weird. When I try to talk to him about bills or kids or how I feel, he makes me feel like i complain or that he just is bothered by me talking. I did leave him for 3 months but wanted to try for my kids. I love him but I don't feel in love what do I do.
2007-07-28 03:17:31 · 9 answers · asked by neytbabe37 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I did try the counseling and he blew up daying that only freaks need to see them.
2007-07-28 03:23:09 · update #1
typical response on the counselling from many men! You keep going though, becuase it will help you.
Get this book and read it. Divorce Busting. The library will have it if you don't want to buy it. Check out the website as well. I really don't know what the success rate is, but if nothing else it gives you some strategies on what YOU can do for yourself.
Understand he is not going to change and you either decide to trust him... or not. It isn't easy. And it won't happen overnight.
I tried this for some time. In the short term it did work somewhat.
good luck.
2007-07-28 03:39:28 · answer #1 · answered by teritaur 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Staying married because of the children is a crappy excuse. You are not being good to your children by keeping them in a home situation that stinks. I was one of those children.
2007-07-28 03:27:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep it moving. You should'nt have to bend over backwards to get his good attention. You've done enough. For yourself and the kids please move on. Or atleast split for awhile and if you don't see a change do what you have to do.
2007-07-28 03:31:32 · answer #3 · answered by Sprite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u should've stayed with him longer before you married him to know wat he is like and yah most likely people dont change and he wont so let the kids see him but if you want a healthy great relationship you might need a divorce
2007-07-28 03:22:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't live in denial of your feelings regarding this matter*.. Time to reconsider your relationship with this person, and move on in your life*..
2007-07-28 03:27:49 · answer #5 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you suspect cheating I would say leave. Other than that you have gone this long you myezwell stay.
2007-07-28 03:22:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey it's your choice. i've been divorced and a have daughter. it's hard. but you chose. if you think a divorce is the right choice, then get a divorce.
2007-07-28 03:22:38 · answer #7 · answered by Eliana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go to a family couselor by yourself. there may be changes you can make that will cause your husband to respect you more.
2007-07-28 03:28:30 · answer #8 · answered by The Naughty Librarian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. get some marriage counseling
2. if that doesn't work, divorce
2007-07-28 03:21:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋