how do u know if u really love someone?

Question

cause i love someone but im goin out wit someone and i reallly want to break up wit him but i dont want to hurt his feelings

Answer 1

i guess u have the feeling you can't live without him.....true love is difficult to define, try them both and see how it will end up

Answer 2

I'm not sure I understand your question. Are you in love with someone but are going out with someone else and you want to break up with that person? At any rate, it sounds like you are confused about the concept of love. Welcome to the party. For thousands of years poets and philosophers, doctors and scientists, have been trying to unlock the mystery of just what love is. From my own experience, when you are in love it's like having a mental disease. You don't think clearly, you do things you wouldn't normally do, you have these strong, compelling urges that keep a constant messsage in your mind; you cannot live without this person one minute, and the next minute, how can I get away from this person?

My long life has taught me that you can fall in and out of love many times, but that thing they call love in marriage is really mis-named. It should be called "unconditional caring." A dog loves it's master regardless of what bad habits it's master has. It's unconditional love. We are not dogs, but it's the closest thing I can come up with to describe real love. It's like the one you love is not only your lover but your best friend who turns a blind eye to your weaknesses and flaws the same way you do to them. That kind of love endures over the long haul. You are always looking out for that person to see that their life is stress free and happy and they do the same for you. Sure, you have disagreements and sometimes they are pretty drastic but, inevitably, you both get over it and your bad feelings are replaced with caring and respect (what some people call love.)

The kind of love that most young people feel is really a chemical reaction to biological urges and should be called being in "lust." Believe me, when you break off such a relationship, you are doing both of you a big favor. Sure, feelings will get hurt but if you live a lie with this person you are hurting him more. He'll get over it in two days and meet someone else. Besides he's probably thinking the same thing you are. Ever watch Sienfeld?

Long answer but not a simple question. I'm sure I didn't even scratch the surface of what "true love" is.

Answer 3

Aren't you going to hurt his feelings by staying with him when you don't love him the way you should?
Atleast by letting him go, he can go find the love that he needs in return.
We never (well most of us never) want to "hurt" anyone's feelings, but if you are not "in love" with this person there's no use staying with him. You won't be happy and therefore that will make him unhappy.
I've been in your shoes before. It was probably one of the hardest things I had to do. For I wasn't "in love" with him any more but yet I did love him and care about him.

Usually the way you know you love someone is you see their faults but you love them anyway.
Some people think that because the person they are with doesn't have any faults that they "love" this person. Not necessarily true. When we look at a person and say they don't have any faults, that's usually infatuation not love. Because we "all" have our faults. It's when you still love that person, want to spend the rest of your life with that person IN SPITE of their faults that you know it's true love.

Good luck to you
I know it's not going to be easy for you, but you really do have to put your feelings first ;)

Answer 4

well if you love someone else then dump the person your with its not really your fault if he gets upset you just grew out of loving him. Let him down slowly only make teh dissicion if you know the other person feels he loves you too

Answer 5

Are you patient with each other?
Are you kind to each other?
Are you never envious of each other?
Do you never boast to or about each other?
Is your relationship characterized by humility?
Are you never rude to each other?
Are you not self-seeking?
Are you not easily angered with each other?
Do you keep no record of wrongs?
Are you truthful with each other?
Do you protect each other?
Do you trust each other?

Answer 6

When you get nervous and flustered when talking to him or her about etc the weather

Answer 7

wEll jUst tEll dA gUy tHat yOur sOrry bUt yOur iN lUbb w/sUmone eLse.bUt yOu sTill wAnt tO b fRiends?

Answer 8

your heart will tell.