i pay my support and i watch them while they are not in school, have them over for sleep overs to give her a break. i really try to be a great dad but she does not want me to set when i see my kids so that its easy for my life!
i work nights and weekends so i can watch my kids during the week so i would like to make the times cuz working nights puts a drain on my life but i do it for my kids
2007-07-28 02:18:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your wife is really being a B isnt she, cards?
2007-07-28 02:22:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
That answer is easy..she's using the kids to control you. You have two choices: you can either just not let it bother you and enjoy the WAY more time than most non custodial parents have with their kids, or you can go to court. Is the the primary custodian? You could argue that since you see them so much you should have 50/50 custody. Since you can watch them after school most judges would probably order that rather than them going to a babysitter. Having a court order doesn't mean she will follow it and that means another trip back to court for the judge to slap her on the wrist and then the process repeats. You're in a hard situation
2007-07-28 04:21:35 · answer #2 · answered by aly_des 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the link below for divorced/divorcing Dad's.
I would suggest you go back to court and ask for ROFR. (Right of first refusal) If the the kids are without their mother for more than 4 hours she is to contact you in advance and see if you would like to parent them. If she doesn't then you can take her to court for contempt. This ensures that the kids don't stay with a babysitter when a parent is available.
Better yet, in court ask for 50-50 joint custody and ROFR.
The kids will benefit from your efforts to be in their lives.
Fight for them!
2007-07-28 02:37:41 · answer #3 · answered by HonestGuy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im in the same boat as you so i know how you feel. do what you can for your kids and be a good dad and nothing else matters. I went to the friend of the court and have set days/nights with my daughter so my ex has no controll over it anymore, maybe try that. good luck.
2007-07-28 02:25:35 · answer #4 · answered by cshelton78 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to act as though SHE is not deciding when you can or can't see them. Pretend instead that their school, or church, or activities keeps them too busy to see you at certain times.
It isn't the kids' faults that their mother restricts your visiting (by the way, most kids would KILL to get to see their divorced dad's daily after school...) You must not show any anger or frustration with MOM, because your kids will just internalize the conflict and misinterpret it as being about them, insted.
LIfe's not fair, especially for "good" divorced dads. Those deadbeats everywhere you look have us outnumbered. You have my sympathy.
2007-07-28 02:28:17 · answer #5 · answered by chocolahoma 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think there is more to it.
You seem to spend a lot of time. So is it just that her control over them troubles you.
Just relax. If u accept things as they are, accept her as she is, life will be easier.
If you do not want to look after them and not work at night, that is your problem to work out. She will not force you to do otherwise. She is no longer your wife, It is your choice.
Just work it out: what is it exactly you want and work at it.
It will happen.
Wish u best.
2007-07-28 02:31:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you have to do is go to family court and have a judge set up a schedule. This way the schedule will benefit all involved and it has to be followed.
2007-07-28 02:22:26 · answer #7 · answered by ♪♫♪justpassingby♪♫♪ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's doing this because she is a petty ***** who still wants to have control over you. I hate to see this done to guys who are really working at being good fathers.
2007-07-28 02:23:16 · answer #8 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can as the custodial parent. As long as she is not doing anything against the court agreement then she can do what she wants.
2007-07-28 02:23:23 · answer #9 · answered by Monte T 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like that b*tch I divorced. She always wants to be in control! --- She screwed up by agreeing to me having my daughter 50% of the time, so she can't be as controlling as she would like. She had to have that guy's peter so bad she would agree to anything. HA! The b*tch deserves any strife she can get!
2007-07-28 02:24:56 · answer #10 · answered by i know it all! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hate seeing people use children as a passive aggressive armament.
2007-07-28 02:24:40 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋