I hate feeling invisible.?

Question

I always feel invisible when im around my friends.
like people dont make a effort to be my friend or anything.
& im just not there if i dont bother.
I'm like so not ugly or anything.

am i depressed.. how do you overcome this feeling?

Note: Srry this question is taken from another user. I felt it interesting so I just took the question. The user deleted it for some reason. So I post it here to get some answers. I am having a similar problem.

Answer 1

Fact of life, most people do whats easiest for them.
Its easier to not speak to someone than to speak to them.
If you want to be noticed you talk to them, listen to them, then do it again.
Some of the most fascinating people I have ever met have been ugly, they take the time to learn and they have interesting opinions because the know they can't rely on their looks.

Answer 2

"& im just not there if i dont bother"

If socializing and talking with your friends is a chore, then it's no secret to them that you are uncomfortable. Try taking the initiative and starting a conversation, or suggesting an activity. If you are uncomfortable around your friends, they will know, and they will react appropriately by alienating you (feeling invisible).

By stepping out there and suggesting things to do or topics for conversation, you are showing them that you want their friendship. You are displaying confidence and assertiveness. If you want people to make the effort to be your friend, you have to be someone they want to be friends with.

Answer 3

well it's not that bad to be invisible you can observe others so they can't notice you are looking. but if this is real problem for you I think you should try to understand why are you invisible. It's difficult, but I think you must try not to worry about that so much, change your behavior with your friends and see what happens. But I really think that you can use your invisibility to solve your problem. Observe your friends, find out what are they doing, what do they talk about, how they behave, why do they pay attention to others and then make conclusion and put it into practice.

Answer 4

People appreciate someone who is there and not always striving for center attention. I used to feel invisible if I didn't have everyone's attention. I slowly learned that being a true friend requires me making the effort too. And allowing center stage to be open to everyone. So many people in my life say, "I'm so glad you called", "I'm so glad you had this party", "I'm so glad you invited me to lunch"... Sometimes when you want something like friends you have to make the effort first...

Answer 5

I'm assuming you are a teenager. Take heart in that this is very common among teens. You are still a little shy and you don't want to bring attention to yourself. As you get older, you will gain confidence and become more social. As you become more social, people will notice you more.

Answer 6

I've experienced this same thing at times. Try making a positive contribution to the conversation.

Answer 7

simple things,

smile a lot
try to shake hands ( if kids do that)
try something like, weight lifting or boxing (for confidence)
Be interested in others, people love talking about themselves and they will like you for being interested in them.
Keep track of what's going on " plan" to make friends, who's who and what's what kinda thing.

Most of all take it easy, being by yourself is not the end of the world.You have time to improve, so do so!

Answer 8

do sumthin drastic i felt the same at one point so i died my hair green and believe me it sure is an attention grabber it looked kinda funny though so me and my friend dyed it purple 2day

Answer 9

Well i usally stand up and be noticed. People dont see you if you dont see your self, meaning be more confident when you speak

Answer 10

well do you feel really emotional these days? well you probably feel invisible because something is on your mind or bothering you. I suggest you see a therapist.