What there is four marriages allowed in islam, in normal cirumstantce no women would want his husband to get .

Question

In normal circumstance's no women would want his husband to get marry with another girl/women. this is simply hurting the feeling of current wife. n our Prophet (PBUH) times, it was applicable but not now. plz answer in detail. this question was asked by me by many non-Muslims . thanks

Answer 1

Getting married means a big responsibility, any man who goes through this social ceremony with a woman takes social vows to provide this woman all the her personal materialistic requirements along with love, respect & care to best of his ability. Even in Muslims the same social rule applies & is provided in their religious norms & ethics. In Muslims no doubt getting legally married not only one but four times exist but there lies a strict condition with this too, this condition is absolute equal treatment to all the four wives from all point of view & any discrimination if ever shown towards any of them is not only rebuke able for such a husband but even gives a right to the wife towards whom such discrimination is shown to call of the marriage on the ground of this cruelty under the Dissolution of Muslim Marriage Act,1939 or even under the Shariat Law known as Khulla. Even if any Muslim wants to get another wife during the life time of his first wife he has to have reasons for the same those are approved by the Shariat the Muslim Law as well he has to seek due permission for this second marriage from his first wife too & so it happens in any other subsequent marriage. Its always taken by non Muslims very easy to say that a Muslim man enjoys life as he can have four wives at a time ,but in reality affording a single wife in today's financial constraint society is difficult, maintaining more then one wife itself looks so burdensome that a normal man even a Muslim will fail to think about such adventure unless some genuine reason exist in his doing so or he is some Arabian Sheikh rolling in wealth & hence keeping four wives & Harem full of other ladies is a social symbol for him but not possible for a ordinary Indian Muslim.

Answer 2

I'm a Muslim & not i will never let my husband to even look at someone else
its was a different time & situation, our dear Prophet try to help others Widows women, coz alot of women lost their husband in war or by a illness so their young poor women don't had any way else to go, alot of bad men try tp ra** them so in order to protect them our Dear Prophet marry them, i feel very proud to be Muslim & i'm so happy for what our Dear Prophet did, but now most men take that has an excuse to marry again that a shame, if your first wife is any able to give birth to your child that your allow to marry again but only if your first wife agree to it

Answer 3

Yes,no woman wants to share her man with another .This is just like no man wanna share his meat with another.
Marriage is between two souls,love is between two,how can there be love if more are introduced?
The scaredness is jepodarized and the union becomes a burden.
Islam has that culture ,so its hard for them to change and accept those times.
The truth is Prophet muhammed said you may marry up to four wives inorder to take care of the orphans!The orphans were the children of those killed in the War and it was necessary also because more women were left as men were killed.
That time it was the right thing to do but there are no great war ,no orphans ;women can work and take care of themselves so why still think like that?
Personally I think those who quote that four wives stuff are just being ignorant of the real truth.

Answer 4

I am not a Muslim/Islam, but i happen to have a few friends with different religion. It was true that they can marry a girl in the same religion as many as four, as long as the male Islam is able to provide his four wife all the things that she and her children needs, he could do so marry 4. Yes, that would be unfair for them but it was in there culture and religion that is why even if it's unfair they can do nothing, but comply to their own culture.
But as of now i believe it was not being practice by some Islam, but still few are doing it. Don't be bother their are really cultures in this world that would shock you. I hope i give justice to your question:)

Answer 5

Those days there were wars and men died in the wars and there were soo many women lost their husband & the lives. To help them get a better life Prophet asked men to marry more than one (up to 4) and treat them equally. It was very genuine reason and people now missuing the criteria made at that time. It s very clearly written in the Quran. Islam is madw ith great principles and ethics and later people started misusing and mislead others and created wrong opinions.

Answer 6

actually thr is always a reason for any law or rule in islam.
our prophet( Peace be upon him) mentioned in his era that a man can marry more thn one woman. and it is absolutely correct. it can be scientifically proved. A baby girl can survive from much more diseases compared to baby boy at the time of birth. this has been proved by many research.
hence the ratio of boys is less thn that of girls. so the ratio is one man = 5 woman. if he will marry one the remaning 4 woman r left out. thy hav 2 options 1)either thy hav to become public property & entertain people as prostitutes or 2) thy can marry a married man and share their husband , n live a better life. the second option is better. Even if thy share husband atleast thy dont hav to live a miserable life as in the first case.
therefore it is acceptable in islam to marry more thn one woman.all the wives hav equal rights on their husband & his property.
today the circumstances r changed but still some of the muslims practice polygamy. it is not against the woman ,infact its for the welfare of woman.
i hope this helped u .
god bless u!

Answer 7

Yes Muslims can marry several times. Not sure of the number though. But not all utilise this facility :) I know many who are happy with their first wife. So its a wrong notion that all Muslims do marry for the second or third time.

I don't see what details you want?? This is a fact and so accept it. You can't change it!!!

Answer 8

as you said N0 weman in this world allow her man to get remarry another lady., if yes, unless some certain genuine reason., and I think either you are not muslim or you dont know QURAN ...and in what circumstace prophet (PBUH) allowed or instructed the men to marry up to four weman.,and prophet given strict intructions to the man who want to marry more than one such as " you have to be equal in ALL the ways to all of your wifes." if you are 100% sure for that then only can marry more than one. if you are a true believerand if you have fear for god., then you will stick to prophets saying.
but in this new world /generation people are misusing those line from QURAN and more interestingly our own ladies (by 75%)sisters,or some relatives) encoraging the men to get marry again for their personal benefits.
if you want more details pls. check with any qualified muslim preachers or refer books from islamic studies. all the best.

Answer 9

this case needs great deel of attention, Islam allowed the man to get married with four women's, but ,,,,,,in which cases
1, Islam allowed but didn't advise, the one condition is to treat every woman in equal, or else never get married by four,
this means every thing in equal even the kiss or the smile,
2 islam allowed the man to get married by 4 , because the definition of marriage in islam is differant from others,

Answer 10

Even during the period of prophet everyone was not marrying four women. The first few verses of Surah Annisa of Holy Quraan clearly states that one can marry one , two, three or four girls but one MUST be able to do justice with them & if it is not possible, limit it to one only. So, it is conditional. For detailed explanations read books of hadith like Al Bukhari & Al Muslim, having words of Muhammed himself about the same verses. In those days , in tribal systems, in battles many men were being killed leaving more women than men. Prophet Muhammed(pbuh) removed all bad traditions of tribal society to make them most civilized whether they follow tribal or other system. The population of women in any country is almost equal to the same of men. If every Muslim started marrying four women, the female population should be four times that of men which is impossible. In that case wherefrom rest three girls for every Muslim man of the same community be brought ? Obviously everyone does not & cannot marry four women. Only rarely it happens which is blown out of proportion & generalized by fascists like Togadia & Narendra Modi (RSS people are constantly distributing the nefarious & derogatory pamphlets on some selected occasions against Muslims as : Hum Paanch Hamare Pachees). They too know well that it is not the case , even then for propaganda sake & their cheap ends they adopt this dirty trick. I'd not use hard language for them rather ask readers to coollly think & analyse themselves.
On this topic there is a very interesting thin book of 32 pages written by two newly converted white Muslim women of western background. After reading no reader will remain uncinvinced. That book is : WOMEN IN ISLAM by Aisha Lemu & Fatima Hirin, published by Markazi Maktaba Islami, New Delhi.
Non Muslims must read that book.

In ancient India too circumstancial polygamy & polyndry was existing. Aryan marriage system of polyndry is such that younger brother can use the wife of his elder brother in his absence as his own wife. So, the youngest one is biggest benificiary. In Rig Veda in Mandal chapter it is clearly written that if a woman has ten non-Brahmin husbands & if a Brahmin (11th man )holds her hand , he becomes her real husband & the rights of previous ten husbands end abruptly. As I don't know further details, I 'll not comment like Togadia or Modi (A word of Bhojpuri "satbhatri" is still used in for bad ladies). I guess that that rule should be circumstancial as no father of a girl would like that situation to happen to his daughter. Everyone including abovementioned ones knows that this rule is no longer being followed.
Somone has described above that for second marriage, the permission of first wife is required is not correct. in case of exigency of second marriage, the first wife can be consulted but her permission is not a must. A man in an Islamic family is called Qauwaam & a qauwaam does not require such permission. If it is there in any legal law that is against Islam. Muslims are not bound to follow any law which is un-Islamic, otherwise , by definition itself they will be out of Islam i.e., will not remain Muslims. If anyone talks of forcing Muslims to follow any law out of Islam that is indirectly asking him/her to leave Islam & be non-Muslim which MUST be opposed by full force in civilized manner.