I have this friend she turn gay this year I think she like me but I only like boys and I will never like girl that way in my live.What should I tell her? I don't want to hurt her feelings.
2007-07-27 22:08:23 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You don't just turn gay Key Key she is just coming out of the closet. You tell her politely as possible that you are not gay but you love her the same as you did before you found this out. Then you support her cause she will need a lot of it until she is comfortable. You do still feel as she is your friend right? Her being gay should not change your relationship at all unless she won't respect your being heterosexual.
2007-07-27 22:17:33 · answer #1 · answered by Big_Dog_Spike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats easy... Thank her for any interest but firmly explain that though you value the friendship and are flattered by her interest, you only swing straight. You respect her gayness don't you? Well if you do, good. Keep in mind it is a two way street and you are in no way inappropriate in expecting the same respect from her about your hetero-ness. BTW she didn't turn gay this year. That makes it sound like a choice. She always was gay and this year is coming to terms with it. She is probably a little confused and scared and because of that could really use a good friend right now over a lover while she sorts that out anyways. Good luck to you both. Hope that helps.
2007-07-28 05:18:00 · answer #2 · answered by quantumrocket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look. youve been friends with this girl for a long time (i recon) just tell her the truth and she will understand. of course dont try to break your relationship with her becouse you find out shes curved. think about it. example, of the 5 year friendship with her, and she blown the cork on the 5th year, are you sure shes straight during the other 4 years? she might had gender crisis in the 2nd year or 3rd and shes hiding it. she is still your friend of 5 years. only diffrence now is that she rather sleep with females other than males.
2007-07-28 05:20:22 · answer #3 · answered by thadus_2pk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, she's making a decision to live a very bizarre lifestyle. She's going to have to learn how to put up with hurt feelings, same as how you and everyone else are going to have to learn how to put up with her new life. If you're her friend and want to REMAIN her friend, you need to tell her right away if she starts coming onto you that you're just not interested. Better to hurt her now than to drag things out and rip her apart later.
2007-07-28 05:14:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you are not gay and you all can remind friends as long as she know that nothing will never happen between the both of you.... If she is truly a friend then she will understand if not then move on.
2007-07-28 06:03:16 · answer #5 · answered by ladyj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If shes flirting with you, then she's not telling you that she likes you directly...so don't tell her directly either, unless it becomes just too weird to handle. Make obvious hints that you don't like her like that so she doesn't have to deal with the rejection of blunt words. When you find things out indirectly, its often easier to handle. Like, I'm sure if your friend flat out told you she liked you in a sexual way it would be a lot weirder. In the same way it's going to be a lot easier for her to take when you tell her indirectly :)
2007-07-28 05:15:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are straight, and if they are decent enough they will leave it at that. If not, time for a new friend. Communication is the key though, talk to her and explain to her that you're not a fan of tacos... Only Coney dogs...
2007-07-28 05:13:30 · answer #7 · answered by Jay L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her ..that you do not care about her sexual preference or
orientation..and that you want her and view her as a friends ,
regardless of what other people say or might say....
but however you and her will always be friends, as long as
she does not cross the line with you..tell her that you are 100%
straight , and will always be that way !!..tell her that she can tell
you anything and that you won't pull away , that you'll always be
there for her as a friend.
2007-07-28 05:20:20 · answer #8 · answered by Roberto D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try making jokes about it at first i guess just be like "haha yeah sorry men only" ya know? laugh about it.. if that doesnt work then just tell her but i mean just be smart about it dont say somthing that will ruin the friendship or get ya'll into a fight and cause more drama than it's worth.. k? kewl haha have fun
2007-07-28 05:15:51 · answer #9 · answered by 0311GettinSum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she does like you just say you like her as a friend and you strictly like boys. If she keeps on liking you and she won't take a hint than say you feel really uncomfortable that she is hitting on you and tell her that you need time on your own.
2007-07-28 05:18:56 · answer #10 · answered by Dan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋