How would you react and feel if your son or daughter happens to be a gay or lesbian?

Question

Can you explain thoroughly.

Answer 1

I would love them. They are the same person as they were before but now they are actually being true to themself. And I would be happy that they trusted me enough to tell me.

Answer 2

I am a religious person, therefore I believe that God meant for a man to be with a woman and vice versa. That being said, a more important doctrine for me is the doctrine of free will. I believe that people are allowed to live life how they want to and not how i want them to. When I have kids, and they are old enough to understand, I hope that they realize what my beliefs are. If they should end up believing that they are gay/lesbian (which, by the way, I believe is a completely psychological thing) then I will show them the door. I will still love them, if they need some monetary help to get started, ill be there, but under my roof, its my way or the highway. You will never find me at a protest for or against gay/lesbian marriages, i try to stay neutral because neither side has come up with a solution that i feel good about. So with my kids i will take the same neutral stand.

Answer 3

Surprised as Jack on Will & Grace to find out that had a son. But if I did, I would love him the same as I did before I knew. He is the same person. He would be a happier person for being able to tell you. He shows that he is honest and wants to share his life. He hates to have to lie about who he really is. So I would encourage him to be true to himself. Strong character is built through confidence and support of honor. He gets these things when he is allowed to openly share his life with his family without having to fear being hated by the people he loves the most. I would let him know that I was always there for him if he needed to talk. If I didn't understand his problem, then I would encourage him to find someone who can help him. If they are grown, I would love them as always and be proud of the person that have become. It really is an honor for someone to share a secret like that. It shows they have trust in you.

Answer 4

I don't plan on having kids, but it would depend on if my kid were male or female. If it were female, I would be a little glad, but I would still hope it was a phase they would grow out of. I would just feel a bit safer. Girls are just less likely to get STD's in general, and their behavior is often less abrupt when it comes to sex. I would want them to grow out of it at least to some degree because it is a bit of a hassle(smaller dating pool, discrimination etc.). If it were male, I would be paranoid, especially if he got a boyfriend. I would be one of those creepy parents who always reminds their kids about safe sex practices.

Best case scenario, my kids would wait a while to have sex, use protection when they did, and desire meaningful long-term relationships. With either gender. Though pansexuality would be nice. That is, the purest form of pansexuality, which is loving people for who they are regardless of what they have in their pants. That would be the most conceptually attractive option for me.

Fat chance of any of that happening though.

Answer 5

I would hug my child and tell him {In my case because i have a son} that i still love and accept him, just because they're gay or a lesbian doesn't make them less of a person, it just happens to be their sexual preference and have nothing to do with who they are as a person!

Answer 6

This is a funny issue when it comes to parenting. There are many who are absolutly agains't homosexuality and would do harmful things to their child/ren as a result. Others are prepared to accept and continue to love their kid/s anyway. Two of my really good friends have been best friends since kindergarten and they hope that they'll have a son and daughter between them so that they can fix them up but they have agreed that if they manage to have sons, they will force them to date anyway. If you knew the whole conversation, it was really funny. LOL!

For me the this question is interesting interesting because a lot of people declare how much they don't care about homosexuality and that it is not a non-issue for them. But, many of these people are/become parent and while generally they have this 'live and let live' attitude regarding gays, concurrently, they also have this 'but not my child' frame of mind too. Meaning everyone else can be gay but its not possible that mine would be. These dual and conflicting ideals are indicative of the continued stigma placed on homosexuality even by thoses who think that they are ok with it. I think your question becomes most powerful and thought provoking when parents find themselves in this situation and they may discover just how they really feel about homosexuality. For instance, the "Queen Mother of the gays," Cher, struggled to accept the homosexuality of her own daughter even though she was performing for years for adoring gay fans. While she may not have had a problem with homosexuality herself, she definitely had that 'but not my child' issue going on which is still evidence of a deeper problem with being gay because she recounted that period many times and was asking herself the question, 'what did I do wrong?'

I think most progressive minded parents find that they do indeed have an issue with having gay children. Many out of fear heap all sorts of stereotypes on their children and contest their identities out of concern for their well-being while others discover that it isn't a non-issue like they originally may have thought and hidden adversarial beliefs come to the forefront. I am not a parent now but I don't know how I would feel about this issue. I know that I would love my children no matter what but I cannot guarantee that I would celebrate any of my own children coming out. Obviously I have enough experience to know the dangers present outside the gay community against it and am well aware of the ones that the gay community has created/is perpetuating on its own and I cannot guarantee that I'll not worry just the same as all of the other parents who react out of ignorance (obviously ignorance would not be my problem but other parents are very ignorant) and concern about their childs 'ultimate' safety. Great question and probably one of my favorites. I hope this helps! §☻§

::ADDENDUM::
To Asif K, you are so uneducated. How is putting your child out of the house showing them love and being neutral? You've offered a very clear stance on homosexuality and I think that it is pathetic that you would endanger one or all of your children because you think homosexuality is wrong and a "psychological thing (what does this mean?)!" How can you consider yourself religious when you are here declaring that you will not have any compassion for a gay child? Whats so religious about that? You're actually being hateful and if your religion preaches hate, then you are indeed working in tandem with it.

::ADDENDUM::
I don't know why you guys are giving Dr. Doris thumbs up. She is by no means advocating homosexuality. What she is saying is that there is no room for homosexuals in the republican party. Read in between the lines folks!

Answer 7

If it were my son or daughter I would love them just the same.
It is generally a gene that causes homosexuality and it is there from birth. UNLESS they were interfered with at a young age in which case it would be choice.

Answer 8

I found it to be okay in my head, but later in my heart not so much because I know how much grief he would get in his life.

Then, every day for a week I'd go into his bedroom and talk to him so I could see he was the same old kid I always knew before.

After that, I was fine.

Answer 9

I'm gay and it wouldnt bother me at all. I would let them choose which ever sexuality they want to be and wouldnt turn them against anything. I would hope they cold talk to me if they have any questions or problems and i would give them unbiased answers.

Answer 10

If god meant for a woman/man to be together[only] why would some people have these feelings? lust? but lust is in straight couples too...i hate that closeminded-ness.

as for the question,
i'd love them REGARDless...but i'd be scared, there's still alot of discrimination.