DEPRESSED...confused....?

Question

Im 17. Lately I realized i dont have any REAL friends, I have my family.. but family doesn't cut it anymore. I work alot.. I hate my job. Im always nice to people, and at work my co-workers treat me like crap plus my boss(which i guess thats their job).. i come home everynight alone. the worst feeling ever is to know im always alone. i try to make freinds but they end up screwing me over. im like a big nerd. i have hobbies such as bowling.. but .. thats the only thing i look forward to doing every week. i have no confidence. i have low-self esteem. people treat me like im a loser, or im really ugly. im beleiving everything these people say/do. my family doesnt really know how depressed i am. i just need advice. im tired of feeling empty and sad. i love my family .. but i think i need freinds my own age. please help me .. i cant live like this anymore.

Answer 1

I would suggest you work on the self-esteem issue first, learn to be more comfortable and accepting of yourself, then get out an mix with groups your own age. You might want to talk with a therapist and find the root cause of your depression, that might help. If you want to get better, you will, but you have to work at it.

Answer 2

Its sad when suddenly you have realized that you dont have any real friends, But some member of your family can be your friend too you dont have to tell them everything , things that you want to keep to yourself, Try to find another job if you can, specially if you hate it, there is no point working there,

Try to join a club or an organisation, or go for a walk with your friends or family, join a youth club, it will lead you to meeting new people and it will build your self confidence,

Try to do a course that you like and will enjoy, read things on how to be positive and creative, Knowledge is a tool to becoming a better and wiser person.

you are not a nerd you are a sweet young beautiful lady who tries her best to be a good normal balance person, Dont let others make you feel bad. Bowling is a good sport keep it up.
Some people allways tries to make everyone feel bad because they do, and just be strong and stand up for yourself and what you believe in, and know your rights and dont let anyone put you down .
You cant please everybody and no matter how much you try its never enough its frustrating, Learned how to be strong and try to be positive and never give up, so much life to live so much things to expirience, so much people to meet and have fun with, this is just one of those time where everything seem's to go wrong and making you feel angry and frustrated, but this is a good lesson for you, this expirience will make you a better wiser and stronger person, so dont feel down cheer up your angel is looking after you.

Be positive and believe in yourself just ignore those negative people they are jealous of you because you are a beautiful young lady .

Take care and Goodluck !

Answer 3

I strongly recommend you find a professional counselor to help you. Yahoo! Answers can only do so much to help you with your confidence, self-esteem, self-image issues, and depression.
However, I do know of some ways to make friends. Put yourself out in the world - have fun! Realize that life is just a bunch of moments strung together, and the more you enjoy them, the more meaningful they become. Work is not life; create a social life that can satisfy your yearnings for companionship. Some tangible answers are: join a bowling club; take a class; volunteer; contact a long-lost friend; take risks!!! Life is too short to be lonely like that. I wish you the best, and hope you find hapiness.

Answer 4

you need to just learn to talk to people and know that your a great person and that it is a thing to be a friend of yours. your family does care and love you very much :) it is just growing up. Don't worry life works things like this out. the right people will come along and when they do you must be able to accept them. Never follow someone and like what they like just because. You should be your self. they can love you or f off. if they chose to F off then it is their loss not yours. Just never let any one use you! Hope this helps :) after all what would I know I am just a dumb frog :) lol

Answer 5

you're not alone. just start by forgeting what people say about you, dont believe them. youre not a nerd, a loser, or ugly. try to raise your self-confidence a little and then try to find people you can hang out with and have a good time together. sure, friends might end up dissapointing you every now and then, but no one's perfect. raise your self-esteem and find somone you can talk too.

Answer 6

Listen, believe me, life blows sometimes. But being 17 to 20 just sucks because you're finding your way through life. Most people don't know what they want to do with life, they're starting to realize who their friends really are and they're really just trying to get through life till something big comes up. Get through high school, stay with bowling and just relax. Everyone treats everyone like **** no matter how hot or beautiful they are. Just take a look around and ask yourself what you really want in life. Life isn't that bad, believe me.

Answer 7

Take it easy. It sounds like you are going through some pretty normal teen growing pains. I had it bad when I was 15 or so and trust me, it goes away. Everyone goes through depressing and rough times in their lives. Try relaxing a little more, keep your eyes open, and I bet you'll be surprised at the results. I guarantee you there are people who like you for you. Just let it happen.

Answer 8

well im gonna tell you one thing
if thats u in the pic ur really pretty just get ur self esteem up and be confident friends bah every friend is a dolar in the poket one they tehre there and the other their not remember one thign ur allways bound to find peopl who love you for wwho u are hang in there things are gonna get better i used to have the same problem and now im very happy with my gf and im about to propose best of wishes

Kano <3 bianca

Answer 9

i think you should start with your self esteem. the reason you're not making friends and you're definitely not happy is because of that. when you do have more confidence, other things in your life seem to fall in place. maybe you can start on changing something on the outside to make yourself feel better... but new clothes or do something new with your hair...

Answer 10

From the pic of you that i see, damn you are not ugly! Think of modeling before?

You suffer from depression. Consult your doctor who will refer you to a phycaytrist and they will give you some little pills that will correct everything. It's not that these reasons you though of are true, you are just blinded by depression to make things seem bad or worsen.