I don't know what to do I'm never around people my own age Im 28 the one friend I do?

Question

have through my mom when she worked with her, I talk to and sometimes go out to bars with her & her husband; they're 40 yrs old and the bars filled w/ all people 40 & over, It's not all that fun, or my sister 19 sometimes will take me out w/ her, I'm scared & freaked out about how I'm going to 1 day marry not meeting anyone hanging out w/ people a lot older than me, I have generalized anxiety too makes meeting people extremely difficult where am I meeting a guy to settle w/ It's scary, my sister 2 yrs younger is married to a man yr older than me has 2 kids 2 1/2 and 2 months. I want 1 kid only but how? than you have to date them to know if there a good person or not, it's seems by the time that happens I'll be too old to have a kid anyway, or be too old to be a rookie @ dating too have no experience @ it. that's what makes it even more scary. in counseling now it's just talk when you go home your back to your problems again anyways,hard life never had a youth either wasted teens &20's.

Answer 1

maybe try something like match.com or some type of service where you can get to know someone over the phone or online, that way there is less anxiety. then when you are comfortable enough you can meet in person. I know it sounds weird but it works, I have a friend who is now married and she met her husband online, my cousin met his wife through yahoo personals.

Answer 2

Try to hang out with people your age.....take some classes.....at the local college....or join some local youth group or something where the people you are looking for hang out....or get a job where they are....just get out there on your own without hanging out with your older family or friends....

...I know what you mean about not having a youth...like my family was never fun...and my mom and dad didn't get along so I felt I was right in the middle of something that wasn't good.....and because my mom wasn't happy....I mean that is what I had to deal with....and it is just not cool when your mom isn't happy....like not all moms are sweet or supportive...like it sucks if your mom was bitter and cold....so I know different family problems or other problems makes you have to be more serious than being a kid and having fun....but it is never too late to change your life and have fun...give life a chance...break away from your current situations and try new things...meet new people.....find things and places you like to be and be there.....

Answer 3

I have a friend who's in a similar situation, has anxiety, and is worried she'll never get married. It's normal to worry about all of this. Many people do not get married until they are in their 30's or 40's. If you are looking to make new friends, the best way is to find friends who like similar interests as you. Age doesn't matter. Just focus on being happy and staying true to yourself. I'm sorry it's so difficult for you right now. I hope things get better.

Answer 4

First ask your Doctor to give you treatment for anxiety, I did and it does work, second try good dating websites like E harmony or match.com be very honest about yourself and when you feel good and ready to meet the person take your sister to the date and make it in a public place in the morning hours ..if you still feel OK after meeting the person your sister can leave and you can start to have fun.

Answer 5

please message me. i would love to be your friend. i will explain more about me when you contact me, but i am in a similar position to the one you're in...although my condition is not life threatening. but i am desperately in need of friends to talk to as well. so please contact me.

Answer 6

try going out with friends your age you went to school with not them . my opion?

Answer 7

I feel sorry for you but yet again, I could end up like you?