Is honesty a turn off?

Answer 1

Not at all. In fact the opposite is true. Being fake is a turn off.

Answer 2

NEVER, NEVER, NEVER!!!! Honesty is always the best policy, even if it hurts to say it or to hear it. You will always know where you stand or where you are going or where you have been. It is always better to tell the truth regardless of the outcome. If you never learn anything in life, please remember this. It will usually keep you going in the right direction even when you think it is not.

Answer 3

Nope! It's a turn "ON".
Honesty is a beautiful quality, but for some reason very rare to find . . .

Answer 4

Not to me. Deceitfulness is, however.

Answer 5

This is not the simple question is appears at first glance. I believe that the ideal of honesty is a sought after traite. However, I think we have become so dellusioned, so very cynical, and know so many people wear masks that we fail to take true, honesty, (not used to hurt others, as in saying, "you're teeth are ugly, go get braces", while true, is hurtfull, but honest) those who are really all they appear to be, with suspicion. We fail to appreciate those who are really honest and whom they appear to be because so many are not what they appear at all and so everyone comes under suspcion.

So, if we look at this from a standpoint of how we view a stranger we just met, we usually fail to believe that anyone is truly who they proport to be. We have to protect ourselves from the many who are deceitfull or at the very least whom fail to understand they are wearing a mask or layers of falseness.

Seldom is a person who is truly whom they appear to be, whom is honest and trustworthy, taken at face value. While we may come to a knowledge they are this trustworthiness and find it attractive and a relief from our everyday untrustworthy companians, this would take a very long time to acheive.

Nearly all human beings wear masks of some level or another. Very few are whom they appear at first meeting. Even long standing friends have huge portions of themselves they never show in public, but only to those in their immediate household. Thus, even with our "closest" freinds we have to realize we are seeing only what they wish us to see, and usually not the whole person they are.

It is only after years of aquantance can we come to understand somebody at a level that peels away all outer layers and exposes them for who they are in their entirety. When somebody is finally seen this way and their friends and family still stay committed and love them, it is a gift unsurpassing in value. There is nothing more beautifull in this life than to be fully loved for the whole person we are, for all of our traits, negitive and positive. We love unconditionally when we love for the positive and in spilte of the negitive.

So, even if a person is who they appear to be at first glance, or even after several months, or years of aquantance, they will still be under suspicion of not being that person. Everyone around them fails to believe that is who they truly are.

Worse, is the fact that many do NOT appreciate this sort of person. I believe that people believe that they would find such a person attractive, or a "turn on", but the reality is that these sorts of people are not really that appreciated. Most humans hate it when another "shows them up" or shows their own flaws. When a person is actually who they seem to be this throws others into seeing how decietful they really are. It is like putting a mirror in front of them and in the mirror it shows them for all they are. This sort of mirror will wind up smashed on the ground more times than not.

Even the most honest among us is still deceitfull to one degree or another. Just the act of kindness of not telling a person they need to go on a diet, or that their house is really not offensive in how messy it is, "Oh, don't worry, you should see mine! Ha-ha!", or the many half truths or outright dishonesty we give others daily in order to not hurt their feelings. Even the most trustworthy person is still a liar to one degree or another. I do not mean this in a hugely negitive manner, it is simply the truth of us as humans living in a society. If every single individual was completely 100% honest society would fall apart.

The part of this that use to upset me is how those who are truthfull are usually the most dispised among us. I know this because I have seen it happen time after time. In movies, books and TV shows we see honest people being rewarded by people flocking around them and loving them. This is a lie.

In reality honest people are viewed with distrust and even jealous hate. They simply show others how badly they behave or how much they lack. At the very least honest people tend to be viewed with uneasiness, because people simply do not know how to deal with such honesty.

Most of us start out being honest. However, over the course of painfull events we learn that to be honest is to leave ourselves vulnerable in a very hostile and using world. Honest people get chewed up and spit out. They are unappreciated, viewed as non team players, and usually cast or rejected by groups. Nobody likes that mirror. As we grow we learn reign in our honesty, and put on false fronts. Often we even are seldom honest in our most intimate relationships. In fact, there is a raging debate whether or not partners should tell all or hold back. In relationship articles you will find advice to keep you secrets, or to be fully open.

I have found that I appreciate truly honest people. I learned that I really want my friends or relatives to tell me if a shirt doesn't suit my coloring, or if I put too much blush on, or any other number of things. I like to know where I stand at any given moment. I don't wish to have to wonder what somebody thinks of my choices or actions. I mean my closest relations, be it friends or family.

However, this is my take on this but overall I think that for most people, yes, honesty is a turn off.

So, no matter how it pains me to state such truths, as I perceive them, I must be honest. No pun intended. Any who know me understand why and how I have this level of understanding of this subject. That is all that I will say on this topic today. lol

We have to laugh at ourselves or life is simply not fun. I refuse to take myself to seriously. Where is the fun in that?

Have a great day, and a very enjoyable weekend.