when we see them with a white women. which is not true cause i dont be jealous. but what i rally want to know is how you black fellas feel or think when you see ah sista with a white dude......
2007-07-27 18:05:00 · 13 answers · asked by ? 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Well, not all black men say such things. But I'm sure you know that (and simply are referring to those who do).
I think one reason is because there are black women who express a great deal of negativity with regards to black men being intimate with white women. As a result, some black men assume the negativity is motivated by jealousy and that all or most black women feel this way. Of course, those of us with common sense know that not all black women have negative feelings regarding such relationships (and that not all of those who do have negative feelings have those feelings due to jealousy). The black men who make these assumptions are failing to recognize the strength of character and open-mindedness of so very many black women. They are lumping all black women into one category. And, in my opinion, this is both sexist and racist.
I think another reason is that some men just want to believe that women want them so badly that they're eaten away by jealousy. To me, this becomes abundantly clear when you think of all the stereotypes associated with male-female relationships whether or not race is a factor.
The above are, of course, just a couple of examples. I am in no way saying that they always apply.
I'm glad that you're not jealous, because there is certainly no reason to be. You don't need a black man (or any other man) to feel secure or self-assured. You're just as black regardless. You're just as much a woman regardless. And, first and foremost, you are just as much a person regardless.
Obviously, I'm not a black man. But I'll answer the other part of your question [how you black fellas feel or think when you see ah sista with a white dude......] for my husband: My husband gives so little thought to race that, most of the time, any comments or conversation about race has to be "dragged out of him". So, when he sees a black woman with a white man, he doesn't think anything race related. If, for instance, you were with him and pointed out one such couple and asked him what he thought of that couple, he would reply by asking, "What am I suppose to think?" I wish more people were like my husband.
2007-07-28 09:07:33 · answer #1 · answered by SINDY 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The majority of black women do not get jealous. Black men and their white women would like to believe that, maybe because it makes them feel better or something, but most black women do not get jealous. I am from NC but reside in Grand Rapids Michigan unfortunately with my hubby. 75% of black men are with them white women and the majority of both are not attractive. The white women especially the wi**er type they hate themselve an attractive black female. They are the ones that are jealous it's like they want all black women to die off or something, and we are the ones that can only create the kind of man they all want..BLACK--not mix, but Blaaaack. Most black men really don't care about black women period, because there are so many more women of all races that want them--and I wonder why? hmmmm..what a mystery. It's a good thing horses are not in season..if you know what I mean. Black men aint ****. They are good for one thing and that's f*****ng. I would be more impressed if most (excluding basketball players etc) black men had businesses and stuff like that. It's really crazy how these women are going balistic over these men.
2007-07-28 21:37:25 · answer #2 · answered by Gemini65 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Because these types of black women are the jealous, insecure types who cant get a man, but overall some of these types of black men say negative things about black women because they are seeking attention. Black women dont need such self-hating types of men who put down their own races of women. Black women need men who will treat them as greatly appreciated lovers, with love and respect. Lets face it: If black women in general are determined to find such a perfect mate, they MUST include white and other nonblack men. I am all for black women finding the love and respect they truly deserve, you have better chances with men of other ethnicities/races. Im all for interracial dating and I date white men.
2007-07-29 21:58:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know many black women that give a care... alot of black men on the other hand will give you 1001 reasons why you should not even talk to white guys, even while they might be with a white chick
2007-07-27 18:23:04 · answer #4 · answered by micheleh29 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I don't know any black women who become jealous of black men with white women. I don't associate myself with people like that. I'm not denying that they exist and if they do it's not very many. Times have changed. Black women have learned to channel that anger and just say, "I'm happy for you". I don't notice interracial couples anymore period. My boyfriend has admitted he doesn't like to see black women with white men. He feels white men have their own women and they should stick with them.
2007-07-28 02:43:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know!!! It's SO funny!!! They are SO full of themselves they think the universe revolves around them, it really makes no sense. I know some black women get upset, but the majority don't give a rat's tush what they do, and yet, they will be the ones getting angry when a black woman is with another race!!
I've said this several times, and I'll say it again, I could careless what a black, white, Latin or Asian man does, as long as he is not involved with me. *u*
2007-07-28 10:04:55 · answer #6 · answered by tres_leches_33 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
girl amen? and you know the sad thing? them same guys that got the white girl on thier arm are the SAME ones that are talking smack when they see a sista with a white man. they thinks everyone likes them and that thier god's gift to women. but if im with a white guy, I'm "playing" myself. Oh please.
brothas GET RIGHT!
2007-07-29 04:24:44 · answer #7 · answered by Bore sum 1 else w/ ur question! 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
They hate it. I had a speech class with a black girl with a white boyfriend, and she gave a speech on inter-racial dating. They loved it, til she informed then that she was in an inter-racial relationship. They booed her, in the class, after her speech, and called her a traitor. I guess it isn't good for the goose; good for the gander on that one
2007-07-27 18:18:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Probably because some black females do react but I as well do not care
2007-07-28 10:33:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't know any African American woman that gets jealous to tell you the truth.
2007-07-27 18:07:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋