I am 24 years old married to my hubby 42 yo five years ago. We have strong family relationship with him. We loved each other most that's why we are very open to each other. The strange is, he is not too jealouse husband. Lately, we had attended a whole night party sponsored by our family friends for their 15th anniversary party in their newly bought house. All funs were there, food, drinks and dances. I've got something iresistible feeling into a guy who perfectly matched my dancing skills. This guy I knew was known for being a playboy as he was introduced to us by the sponsors. I was asked to dance with this new guy and my hubby did not refused, so we had couples of dances together of all kinds, I noticed this guy taking advances of me and I found myself enjoying to his moves. I stared my hubby on his set to see his reactions when this guy passionately held me in his arms, I saw his smiling nods.
Now, I can't stop thinking this new guy he occupied my mind. What shall I do?
2007-07-27 17:52:08 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your husband also want you to know your sexy. You have a good man it sounds like so do not mess it up over a few sexual thoughts about another man. The surest way to ruin a marriage is to be unfaithful even when it don't seem your husband would mind. He will mind and then you will be out your husband and you will not have your boyfriend as he is a player and would move on after he uses you. Try spicing up your sex life with your husband in another way, in truth a divorce is the worst thing ever.
2007-07-27 18:21:53 · answer #1 · answered by saintrose 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are just caught up in the fantasy of him. You really don't "know" him at all. Keep that in mind and look at it as a healthy fantasy...nothing more.
I would suggest that you don't put yourself in that position anymore and do everything you can to not see this person. That's the only way you can be for sure that it will stay a fantasy and nothing more.
Maybe you and your husband are having problems of some sort?? Maybe you don't feel you are getting all you need from this relationship and looking outside of the marriage seems very easy and fun to do. If this is the case, make it a point to talk to your husband about how you are feeling and do everything on your part to keep the marriage going in the right direction.
Good luck. Hope this helps.
2007-07-28 01:22:06 · answer #2 · answered by ShineOn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 24 years old, you are still very young but not too young to know better. Just because you're married does not mean that you will never be attracted to another man. It happens all the time. You were foolish to continue dancing with this guy. You are playing with fire. Of course your husband doesn't sound like he's the sharpest knife in the drawer either. Whether you can actually forget about this guy or not, you need to steer clear or you'll end up in divorce court and for all I know your 'hubby' could still be giving you his dumb smiling nods.
2007-07-28 01:02:11 · answer #3 · answered by stevieray 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what you should do and make no mistake about it your husband would be devastated if you cheated on him.Why are you letting your mind go there.If you want to have sex with this guy pretend your husband is this guy and give your husband the best night of sex he ever had.It's easy just close your eyes and don't open them and go with it. Chio Pio you say you can't control your feelings when you have them for someone else,you can't if you are a weak person.You can control your feelings don't let anyone tell you you can't .I did and i was so happy that i did.When my head cleared from the feeling i had for him i seen him for what he was and that was someone who just wanted to have sex and walk away.This guy i thought loved me and all he was doing mixing me all up. Thank God my husband never new anything because i would of last him and everything that we built over the years.
2007-07-28 01:19:43 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This knew guy means no good to you so stop thinking about him and make your husband happy. It ,made you feel good that someone was interested in you but your husband has been for a number of years.
2007-07-28 01:13:43 · answer #5 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want your marriage to last then act as passionately towards your husband as you did this other man. Actively put the other man out of your mind and concentrate on your marriage.
2007-07-28 00:57:47 · answer #6 · answered by Sage 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is so easy for every body else to critize you when they have not been in the same position, when they are not having all those crazy and uncontrollable feelings about someone else, it is something that you can't control...
It will be hard for you to stop thinking about that person if you see him again. Avoid him!!!
2007-07-28 01:01:07 · answer #7 · answered by ChioPio 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you get married? If that one thing, that one nite of "flirting" can make you think of him that long, you may need to consider who/why you married. Not a good thing. Re-evaluate your marriage and how you can think of your husband the same way, or get out. It wouldn't be healthy for either of you....
2007-07-28 00:59:35 · answer #8 · answered by chicagoavonlady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, your husband is 42 and doesnt play the childish crap you like. he has been through a lot more than you have. the only reason you are thinking of that other guy is because you enjoyed his attention to you and now you are infatuated with him. you also enjoyed being his choice, but like you said, he is a player. something tells me your are going to be one of those desperate housewives, plus your husband isnt afraid of losing you because you two are married.
2007-07-28 00:58:48 · answer #9 · answered by jen w 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In short~ nothing...lol
Sounds like you had a fun night...leave it at that, if anything you've added a little passion to your marriage.
2007-07-28 00:57:08 · answer #10 · answered by busymum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋