My best friend is 18 and has a 5 year old son, i know this guy he is sweet and will do anything for his son. He tells him storys at night to help him sleep, and tells him about what kinda person his mother was. My best friends parenta don't think that he is mentally stable enough to take care of his son. when there is nothing wrong with him, he loves his son to death and has a wonderful boyfriend who has helpped so much. Soical Services took his son away and sent him so Cali so he can never see his father again. i know that his son is scared and wants his father but they wont let him see him. Is there anyway that he could get his son back?
2007-07-27 17:32:04 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
For him to get his son back, he needs to get help for whatever problem he has that they took his son away from him for. You say "When there is nothing wrong with him, he loves his son to death" but what happens when there is "something wrong" and what exactly is "wrong"? If his own parents don't think he is mentally stable, then he does need to get help.
If he gets treatment, and keeps doing whatever it is that the doctors/physiologists say, (including taking medication, if required) then he would have a better chance of being reunited with his son.
If you want him to have that, work with him and his family, to get the help he needs. Tell him that if he wants to be with his son, he has to do what is necessary for himself.
2007-07-27 17:41:32 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, he needs to find out exactly why his son was taken from him. Noone cant just take his kid without telling him why and under what circumstances. Tell him to go back to the Social Services department and find out why his son was taken from him. If that leads him nowhere and the issue isnt looked into, he might want to higher a lawyer who is experienced with child custody situations. While the case is pending, he might be able to gain temporary visitation, supervised or unsupervised if he is willing to make the trip to CA.
Tell him to do his research and then consult with a lawyer.
In order to prove a parent is an unfit parent, the person requesting custody must prove or show proof that the parent in question is an unfit parent. He might want to contact his parents and attempt to talk to them. Maybe they feel his mentality is not great, his home isnt good enough, or his son is lacking the care and necessities a child needs.
There are many reasons why someone would do something like that but his best bet is to ask, do research, and attain legal help.
2007-07-27 17:41:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If as you say your best friend is 18 and has a son 5 that means he became a father at 13, so why has it been left for 5years before his son was removed from his care? Why wasn't the son taken away before this time? Surely he has family that can help him out and ease the pain. What he needs to do is find out why his son was removed and who was the person responsible for this happening? and get legal advice on what steps he can take to get his son back.
2007-07-27 23:37:06 · answer #3 · answered by mrlonely_solonely_immrlonely 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Social Services only takes children away from their parents if they are really in need of a removal ie no food, water, shelter, safe environment. So he had to have been doing something more then just his parents not agreeing with the way he fathers his child. He can always go to court but it will be a big mess.
2007-07-27 17:51:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
surely the parents might have reasons also the social services to take the custody of the child. yes he can surely get his son back as he would submit himself first to professional help for his own stability. if after submitting to such make him a better and stabilized person, then he can claim his son again.
encourage your friend to help himself first so he could be more better parent to his child. open your mind also to his issues he must realize that he has flaws to improve on for his child sake if he really loves him.
2007-07-27 17:40:09 · answer #5 · answered by Mei T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is sad to say but there isn't much you can do. All you can really do is stand next to him and support him. Things like that are sad and unpredictable. If the social worker thinks it's for the best interest then it's done. You can also not mention it and try to keep him distracted from it. Hope i help!! Good luck
2007-07-27 17:38:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lawyer.
love conquers all.
2007-07-27 17:35:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋