a long time friend of my mothers and myself was recently diagnosed with an agressive form of breast cancer. this woman is in stage 4 of it and has been given a little time left to live. this woman is so nice and caring. she's always willing to help you and when i got the news of her illness i was devastated and left speechless. i mean what do you say to someone who is dying? there is nothing i can say to change her situation so how do i console a person in her position?
2007-07-27 17:26:16 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
What you do as her friend is tell her how much she has meant to you and others. Let her know how much she has been appreciated and cared for and thought about. These are the things that will help a person facing the inevidable and give them comfort. I know I would feel better knowing that I was leaving a positive, lasting impression. Oh and telling her that you're sorry that she is facing this horrible disease is not rude or offensive. I remember telling my mother how we hated seeing her uncomfortable and asked what we could do for her often. Hope this helps you. God bless, and be strong.
2007-07-27 17:43:24 · answer #1 · answered by holly should but wont 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This probably won't help with a lot of situations, but when my mother was in the ICU and had just had a series of strokes and could no longer talk, I asked her what she really wanted. She was able to lift her one arm and point up. I thought she meant she wanted to die and go to heaven. She was 91 and had Alzheimer's for years, but still had some lucid moments. I felt helpless to do or say anything to help her, but I told her that if she thought it was her time, and if she wanted to, it was alright for her to move on. I said that we would all miss her terribly, but if she was miserable here, it wasn't right for us to wish her to stay any longer. When I told my sister that (she was many states away), she said that I did the right thing. Too often people who are suffering hang on for others and it's better to let them know that it's alright for them to finally rest. I hope that my sharing this can help someone else in that situation.
2015-04-28 21:24:41 · answer #2 · answered by Kentucky_bound 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to say any thing just pray for her and w/ her and just be a loving shoulder to lean on!
2007-08-03 11:44:17 · answer #3 · answered by teriwilburn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋