it is a must to answer this!how to get through with life when you've seen the face of death in your love one.

Question

how to you deal with death.
uh-huh, i mean how do you take it when someones very dear to you. was painfully taken...slowly like he got a cancer.
From his suffering what have you got, to be afraid of death of cherish it.

Answer 1

Pain sometimes causes us to see things through the veil of our own miseries, that's why after experiencing a traumatic event like you describe, it's sometimes helpful to look back at the whole thing again and see things you may have missed durig the shock of witnessing it all unfold. For example, when your friend got the diagnosis of having cancer, what did he do next? Did he just collapse and wither immediately away, or did he fight it, cherish every minute of life, and develop a serenity of spirit that made you wonder how he was able to manage such a profound perspective? He probably fought it, and valiantly in fact, as evidenced by the fact that you said he died slowly. Cancers are extremely painful ways to go, for sure, but there's more going on there than just dying. Your friend likely found a depth of faith and spirituality that put him at peace in a way no other experience can promote...and he fought for life, every second he could savor even though doing so meant tremendous pain. That should tell you something very significant...even through less than perfect circumstances and certain pain LIFE is worth fighting for, and our spirits are enriched by the experience no matter what becomes of our physical bodies. It's important to come to a place where we value life this way...and if it was important for him, it is doubly so for you. Your friend, having fought so courageously for life, would not want you surrendering yours for him. He would want you to savor yours while you can, remembering his example and the joys of his life, not the tragedy of his death. He would want your life to go on (in full measure). Grieve the loss, for sure, but then celebrate the life...for the uniqueness he brought to your life, and the memores you shared. In that way, he lives on...as do you both. Good luck, and God bless.

Answer 2

while you are afraid of his death, he's already dying there. maybe u can give him the very best in everything u do n make sure he has no regrets before leaving this world. u can grieve but cherish those sweet things u did together that make u smile n last but not least, remember that in the end, we all are gonna be dead

Answer 3

They wernt really my friends like my age but they were i guess my friends my family my life
i loved them and i always will
i just look back on all the great times i had with them
and cherish the times i have by myself to remember them
i love them so much
all you have to do is remember that they would want you o move on, dont forget them but dont base the rest of your life on tte fact that they're not there anymore.....
do what they would want you to do
you'll be reunited in the end

Answer 4

Cherish life and accept death as a part of it. You have been honored by your loved one for being with them and seeing them through. It is a gut ripping experience I know. But it is one that is a part of your life path. It will enable you to grow spiritually and emotionally like no other. Be honored and know that you have been blessed to be a part of something very sacred with your loved one. My heart is with you.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

I know what you are going through! My dad suffered really bad when he was dying and it hurt soooo bad to let him go! but, I find comfort in knowing that he isn't suffering anymore and that he's in a better place and watching over me and my family. But, it's been 4 years and I still have bad days where my son will do something and I wish that my dad was there to see it! But, honor his memory. Think of all the good times and do your best to make them proud... they are watching over you! :)

Answer 7

Its really hard to let go when you need to hold on. but memories are what keeps me okay. i have pics of her, and we had some crazy memories. she did everything for me, and vice versa. im gonna miss her, but she'll be in my heart forver.
think of it that way, thats what i do.