How long should you wait until you tell people.....?

Question

I am really starting to think i'm pregnant i have about 1 1/2 weeks until i can take a test to know for sure.. and I just want to know how long is a good time to wait until i tell people you're pregnant, ie my husband, inlaws, boss... etc.... and also does anyone know how maturnity/ parental leave works in ontario?

Answer 1

I would tell your husband right away that is a possibility. For everyone else I would wait until after the first trimester when the chances of a miscarry or lessened significantly. Miscarriage is not that common but you would not want to tell that story to alot of people, it would be difficult I assume. Most people wait until then to tell others.

Maternity leave really depends on your job. At most places it is 1 month for vaginal and 8 weeks for c-section. Four of those weeks are usually the only ones that you get paid for but it varies as each employee has different rules...some only give 80% pay but I think they have to at least give you 4 weeks off by law!!! Unfortunately, the USA is one of the worst countries when it comes to mat. leave. China, I believe that is the correct country, gives one year off at 80% pay. Most countries have a longer paid leave than the USA. Good Luck!

Answer 2

Well, they say that after the 14th wk your probability of miscarriage goes down so that's how long I waited to share the news with ppl (except for the parents). It was my 1st so I couldn't imagine telling ppl "hey I'm pregnant!" and then for some reason loosing it. You don't ever have to tell your boss and you might want to tell your husband that you might be and then go find out together whether it be a test at the hospital or a take home and pee on a stick test.

Answer 3

I would wait to get everyone excited until you get a positive test. Your husband should always be the first to know. The two of you could come up with creative way to tell the other family members... how fun! As far as your boss, I would wait until at least your second trimester unless of course your work could complicate your pregnancy.

I'm sorry I don't know anything about maternity leave in Canada.... but here they allow 6-8 weeks after delivery unless you need to take an extended medical leave or leave of absence. Ask your boss about this when you tell him of your pregnancy. Or check it out in your work place's employee policy.

Answer 4

Husband should at least know that you think you might be, then take the test, once you are positive, then you could let other people know, such as family members/close friends, however, people tend to wait a little longer to tell others because of the risk of miscarriage, usually one-three months is the high risk time, after that I would shout it off the rooftops!!! But the decision is yours to make (and your husbands)!!! Congrats!!

Answer 5

You definitely should wait until you know you're pregnant for sure, after you've missed your period and passed a pregnancy test. But...after that it's really up to you. Some people tell their close friends and family almost right away...others choose to wait until after the first ultrasound, or after the first trimester is over, just in case something should happen. But, in my opinion, even if something does go wrong, it's not a bad thing if your close friends and family know. In fact, you may feel weird if they don't know that something like that happened to you. In terms of telling people at work, again...whatever you want is fine. But, most people wait to tell colleagues, casual acquaintences, etc until the pregancy is a bit further on (after first tri), just because if something does happen, you may not want the whole world to know. Overall, there's no right or wrong answer...just do whatever you feel comfortable doing...but do wait until you know your pregant for sure!!. Good luck!

Answer 6

This may seem really despondent, but I don't suggest telling people you're pregnant until you're a couple of months along because the chance of miscarrying is higher in the earlier months. Also because there are some cases of false positives from hormones in birth control you may have recently came off.

Answer 7

It is best to keep it quiet until confirmed by doctor. For first pregnancies, three months is best. However, I had to tell everyone when the doctor confirmed. What fun. I am so happy for you. Be careful and do not take meds that are not a NECESSITY. Morning sickness pills and stuff that you do not NEED, do not take. You want the little one to be healthy and no smoking or drinking. Ok, once a mother, always a mother. Love it.

Answer 8

Tell your husband immediately. Parents and close family can know early - but for others, wait til after three months.
For maternity leave info, check the EI website, it should be on there, or get info from your federal office.

Answer 9

take an over the counter test!! you'll know now if your pregnant...the test are usually not wrong
Tell you husband immediatley when you find out!!
The inlaws boss etc..are up to your discression..I prefered to tell my family as soon as we found out..my boss I waited untill i ReaLLy began to show and people started to ask questions!
good luck

Answer 10

After 12 weeks is usually safe. At the end of 12 weeks your chances of miscarriage drop dramatically. Anything before that is risky!!

An early congrats and good luck!!