this is the biggest broblem I ever met in my life, because of this it makes me very upset and worring about my sister how she is going to live in the future. anybody please give me some good advises, wether I should move away from my neightborhood so that my sister can live without fear and shame?
secondly! I'm worring about her mental health because she is too young to get such a savage abusement?
2007-07-27 16:34:30 · 14 answers · asked by albert 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
"My parents adopted a baby 13 years a go"
Wow, you almost make her sound like an inanimate object, like something that they might have bought at a garage sale.
"abused by a man who is my neightbor"
So you know the guy that did it, and his *** isnt in jail for it yet?
I agree with the other guy up there, I think that you raped her. Perhaps I have just been watching too many episodes of Law & Order, SVU, but your story is lacking credibility, at best.
Come clean, ***-wipe...
2007-07-27 17:19:32 · answer #1 · answered by cgsna 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
where are your parents? if they are still alive, consult them first. if you are guardian of her and can move away then do. if you can press charges first that would be best so he cannot do the same thing to anyone else. some go thru the same type of abuse even younger. no age is old enough to go thru something like that. and I'm very sorry it had to happen to her. encourage her to talk, if not to you then to a pastor or someone else who can be trusted. here is a website that might be helpful to both of you:
http://www.geocities.com/HotSprings/2402/
it will be a long and stormy road to recovery and at only 13 it may take some time for her to be ready to start on it. another website that might be helpful is:
http://www.spiritualsurvival.org/view/?pageID=131725
and should she need to try some anonymous counseling she can go here:
http://www.newhopeonline.org/
stand by her. keep a close eye on her and watch for signs of self injury and/or suicide. no matter what the age something like this happens at it always affects mental health.
2007-07-27 23:45:50 · answer #2 · answered by Tim T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she will have to get into therapy to be able to face a lot of issues that she is going to face later on in life, let her know you are there for her, and is important that she understand that it wasn't her fault, she needs to have a great family support. As for the abuser, i hope that charges are being brought up against him he should go to jail, if moving makes her feel more comfortable than yes by all mean, are your parents supportive of her and her feelings? Good luck!
2007-07-27 23:43:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents adopted a baby 13 years ago. How is that relevant to her being abused? Is she your sister? How old is she? Report it even if she is not. Whatever she is to your, report it, it's a crime if she is underage. How is you running away going to solve her problem and help her live without fear and shame? You are just thinking about yourself. I am worried about your mental health. You only run if you committed the crime. It is your neighbour who should be moving not you. Something strange going on with you or your neighbour.
2007-07-27 23:45:24 · answer #4 · answered by Girls M 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunatly if you are afraid to go to the authorities you will have to live with this incident and move on in life. So much for you and your sis. Now is there anyone else who will or can suffer from this in the future? You will also have to live with that...
2007-07-27 23:41:52 · answer #5 · answered by JORGE N 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes move thats just ganna make her feel bad and worried and as long you don't remind her about what happend and stuff like that but do take her to the doctor or what ever that thing is called!!
2007-07-27 23:43:18 · answer #6 · answered by less r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't run from him, you will only allow him to continue to abuse other kids. Confront him, face it head on by getting her to a counselor, a doctor and press charges against the neighbor. hold him accountable for his actions and get justice by stopping him from doing it to someone else. this will all bring some much needed resolution and closure to her too. good luck!
2007-07-28 00:29:26 · answer #7 · answered by lifesaclassroom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay i gonna say this like i'm ur best friend she's 13 right move her to an aun't or uncle's house really far away tell ur parents then call police and get that man arrested then get her checked for hiv+,or any other sexually transmitted deises
2007-07-27 23:49:03 · answer #8 · answered by John H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would consider moving
She needs therapy asap to get thru her issues and agle to go ahead with her life in a positive manner.
2007-07-27 23:44:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope the man responsible has been charged with the crime! Your sister would need counseling to help her heal from this, and to understand it was NOT her fault. Look under government agencies, mental health, and explain the situation, and they will refer you to counselors who deal with molestation.
2007-07-27 23:40:31 · answer #10 · answered by Deb 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋