how do i tell him when he dont remember?

Question

my boyfriend was drinking and was in a horrific car accident. he almost died. we had a fight the night of the wreck about him drinking. he dont remember the fight but knows about it from conversatition. he wants to know about it but i cant bring myself to tell him. i said alot of hurtfull things and stuff i didnt mean.how is the best way to tell him?

he is only 17 and we have been dating for over a year i want to tell him everything i just dont know how to tell him the terrible things i said

Answer 1

Just give him a general idea of what it was about and down play it. Don't tell him any of the things you said.

Answer 2

Does he really have to remember that fight? that's what I'm wondering but anyway. Because you guys are in a relationship, both of you should be honest with one another. However before you tell him about the fight and the horrible things you said to him. Say that you regret saying those words to him because you didn't mean it and probably you were just venting out your emotions during that time. (cause you cared for his health) Apologize to him and hopefully he'll understand. Tell him how glad you are for him to survive that horrific car accident. Good luck. hope my answer was helpful.

Answer 3

I think you need to confront this train head on while the whole thing is still up in the air. Everything out on the table. Maybe you both can move forward from this and gain a positive feeling from all the bad stuff that has happened. This is a really excellent time to make your point even clearer about him quitting.

Answer 4

Tell him the truth obviously you care for him. We all say things we regret. We seem to say these things more when we are trying to protect someone.It seems like if you were arguing with him about his drinking the night of the accident you were only trying to help him. Let him know that you would of done or said anything to prevented him from drinking and driving and almost losing his life.

Answer 5

Don't tell him. Is that that important. If he cant remember how come he asking bout it, did you tell him? I am not sure that you should be so worried about how to tell him whatever horrible things you said during your quarrel anyway, but you should be more concerned if he has a drinking problem. What if you were with him in the vehicle? What if he had died or killed you, or someone else he was traveling with? what does he plan to do about what happened? I think you quarreled with him about drinking because you were concerned about him. And he could have been your dead 17year old boyfriend whose closed casket funeral you had to attend. study it

Answer 6

Don't tell him everything. Tell him a little, not the really bad part. What he doesn't know won't hurt. Change the words.

It wouldn't be the first time, and certainly not the last, that you have to tell a white lie.
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Answer 7

Just tell him. He wants to know, so tell him what he wants to know. Tell him that you feel horrible about what you said because of what almost happened afterwards; however, he also needs to know that what he did to cause the accident cannot and will not happen again.

Answer 8

i glad that he is doing good after the accident. but i would not
say anything about it, if you both have learned from this then
move forward not backward. you cant change what was said
any way so just be thankful for a second change.

Answer 9

don't live with that guilt your whole life,you did not tell him to drink and drive,be honest with him,tell him about the argument,before someone else does,but just remember this is not your fault,this is his fault for drinking and driving,and i hope no one else was involved in the accident

Answer 10

forget the terrible things. stick to the facts. just what it was about not the mean words that would bring hurt again.