So I told a few of my long time friends that I think I might be gay and every single one of them has distanced herself from me. I wasn't really looking for sympathy or anything. We always talked about everything and this has been an important event in my life. I didn't really go into any great details about my recent experiences sensing that it might make them uncomfortable but still they all ran away. Does being a lesbian really make me so repulsive? I thought these were my friends. 2 of these girls I have known since elementary school. Do they think all of sudden after all these years I might jump on them and start humping? I am just shocked really. You keep hearing how young people are okay with lesbians and gays but all my experiences in the past 4 weeks has shown the opposite. My roommate, my friends and even my own siblings are abandoning me. Have any of you experienced similar things if you came out recently? Or do I just live in the wrong part of the universe? I live in Ohio.
2007-07-27 15:54:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If they were in fact your friends they would accept you. I know you have probably heard that a MILLION times but it is true. There is nothing wrong with being gay. I only told my closest friend, and he acted kinda like he knew it, but not really..The truth is that people seperate themselves from things that they don't know alot about. AND PROPS to you for coming out! That takes guts..Congrats! Maybe you should try to talk to them about it and clear the fact that you're not attracted to every woman you see.
2007-07-27 16:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by Sheltered.By.Shadows. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experience, i can say that i have been on your friend's side of the situation. About two years ago when I was a little more naive and hadn't realized that infact i was bisexaul, someone i knew came out to me and told me they had a crush on me, and i acted the same way your friends did. I felt the need to avoid her because it was shocking and I didnt know what to do. Eventually after time i realized that i was a jerk, and we were friends and that was all that mattered. Just give your friends some time to let the whole thing sink in and they will come around, especially if they've been your friends almost your whole life. You are still the same person you were before and they will realize that. They are just a little shocked and confused right now.
2007-07-27 16:10:56 · answer #2 · answered by mack7465 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they need more time ...if they are a true friend they will eventually come around...No...being gay or lesbian is NOT repulsive...I'm sorry you are hurt and feel abandoned by your friends and family...be patient , give them time. Most important be yourself..don;t worry about making others feel uncomfortable...that is their problem...just be you... and proud of who you are...and know you are not alone in the world that people understand and care about what you are feeling.
2007-07-27 19:33:24 · answer #3 · answered by tawanda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not gay, but I have been around a lot of people who are, sometimes people are afraid that they will not know how to act around you because they think that you have changed not realizing that you are the same person that you always were, some also think that you may be attracted to them, there are many misconceptions about gay people that are believed because of what society has led them to believe, I hope that they get over their discomforts for the sake of your friendship, good luck
2007-07-27 16:04:26 · answer #4 · answered by mianjo413 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-12 23:38:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You live in Ohio. YES you are in the wrong part of the universe. We have like only three nice cities here (and it sure isn't Cleveland). Hell, most Ohioans keep food in their bathroom.
I've lived in Ohio and can tell you that it very often is a highly backwards place.
2007-07-27 16:09:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ASK THEM TO GO TO1 PFLAG (PARENTS AND FRIENDS OF LESBIANS & GAYS) OBVIOUSLY they need help-THERE IS A GROUP FOR "THEM" & no you are not alone .Who knows whats going on in there head. I tell my friends if they ask depends now alot of my friends are gay Siblings definitely mine didnt want to hear it. I just lived my life &if I dont want to answer I ask them why do you ask? you plan on sleeping w/ me? Dont stress it will be ok
2007-07-27 16:05:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they are probably afraid you want to hump them. Assure them that you think of them as sisters, not anything else. Then ask them what else they are afraid of and to be honest.
2007-07-28 23:55:57 · answer #8 · answered by Tina Goody-Two-Shoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some do it because they're not your real friends.
Some do it because they fear that society will label them gay/lesbian if they hang out with you.
and Some just do it because they're homophobic.
2007-07-27 18:24:43 · answer #9 · answered by Soa's Fate~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend came out, and i was perfectly fine with it. nothing changed. then he came out to another one of my friends, and she cant look at him the same way anymore. she cant do anything with him, even see him in person or talk on the phone or computer. she's traumatized.
2007-07-27 16:04:14 · answer #10 · answered by ashley101-zippedy doo dah! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋