My husband and I both work for the same employer, and have a 4 yr. old son. Our employer wants us to go on a grueling 3 wk. overseas trip, but we asked that one of us be excused, unpaid, so that we could stay home with our son. We were denied. We believe our son is too young to be without one of us for so long, and we also believe that he will suffer greatly on such a demanding itinerary (12,000 miles of travel over 20 days.) Anyone have any ideas for us? We believe that both options would be damaging to the health of our family. How can we get our employer to let one of us out of this trip? Thanks in advance.
2007-07-27 15:37:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Your employer can require you to do anything legal. You are not required to keep your job you know.
While difficult, your 4 yr old will make it for more than 3 weeks without you, and will appreciate you more when you come back. Many of our men and women in the military are doing it for much longer than 3 little weeks.
If you really want to get out of the trip, I would recommend determining why they think both of you should go. Do they have a valid concern? What have you done to alleviate their concerns? Show them the money -- how they can do better with one of you here and one of you there.
2007-07-27 15:45:31 · answer #1 · answered by mj69catz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally legal. It's either his way or the highway. Leave the boy with a grandparent or close relative. Make sure you explain to him you're going to return. Call him two or three times to let him know you'll be returning in a few days. Make the most of the trip and during your spare time, do a little sight seeing and souvenir buying. After all is said and done, you'll be glad you did things this way.
2007-07-27 22:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by notadeadbeat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly legal. They are your employer and if they want you to do something. You have to do it. You always have the option of quiting and finding another job.
You can ask nicely not to go. But they have the option of accepting or rejecting that.
Unless you have a contract that says something about no international travel, there is nothing you can do.
2007-07-27 22:56:12 · answer #3 · answered by Kenneth C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can quit. That's the only thing you can do. Sorry, but either take the kid with you, quit your job, or go. Those are your only options. Yes, the employer can legally require this of you.
2007-07-27 22:44:53 · answer #4 · answered by cyanne2ak 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not your employers responsibility to be sensitive to your home situation. It is your responsibility to do the job you have been hired to do.
Either make arrangements for your child or one of you quit.
Your employer doesn't figure into this equation. He expects you to do your job. How you arrange your private life is up to you.
2007-07-27 23:44:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I personally would call it a second honeymoon, Find a babysitter for the kid and enjoy the trip.
2007-07-27 22:53:55 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly if you live in the United States they can force you. Its basically a matter of go or be fired.
2007-07-27 22:41:44 · answer #7 · answered by HePunksMeNot 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't HAVE to go . . . you could quit.
It sucks. I agree.
2007-07-27 22:50:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋