Its very easy to love yourself when things are going well, when you have wonderful friends and family who support you...but how do you love yourself when, things aren't going so well and people are attacking you etc. Thanks :) Happy Friday!
2007-07-27 14:59:04 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
LOL thanks...I'm not going through it now...I just want to know :)
2007-07-27 15:03:34 · update #1
Thanks Brian but I actually came from an incredibly stable, loving home, I suppose I'm just sensitive :)
2007-07-27 15:10:54 · update #2
With the exception of Brian, thank you for your insightful answers :)
2007-07-27 15:14:08 · update #3
Yes, I agree, some INCREDIBLY awesome answers...(again with the exception of Brian)
2007-07-27 16:27:11 · update #4
I believe I have done alot to have brought on this criticism by being so self-centered and acting superior. with all I have in me I am TRULY sorry and I am doing what it takes to Love myself and make sure that I treat others with more respect by not stealing the spotlight and listen more, be more considerate. But...I am not going to feel bad about it...feel bad about myself. I'm simply going to make these changes gradually, keeping my uniqueness, and go on to change how I treat people little by little, I'll listen a little more, do things for others more...etc. but I am going to REFUSE to berate myself. Thank you so much for input. I am so thankful for your intelligent answers (except for Brians)!
take care and have a nice weekend :)
2007-07-27 16:30:21 · update #5
..and it is easier to love yourself when no-one else does! It happens once in a while that people start questioning you on your decisions or anything else. Absolutely anything, however absurd. Just don't depend on them too much..so that you have to be loved by everyone else first, and then think about loving yourself? That would be the most mindless thing ever, if you ask me.
Maybe things never do go well, you just think that everything's okay. Perceptual reality. Be solipsistic, it's what in your mind that matters.
2007-07-27 15:07:25 · answer #1 · answered by Bliss. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep a Daily Good Deed Diary. Everyone knows that at times all the criticism you receive isn't always fair or deserved. If you do a good deed every day, for no special reason, for example you see some trash where a person missed the can, pick it up, throw it in. Let someone with fewer groceries get ahead of you in line. Let the other person have the last word in an argument. Just say you are sorry without any explanation. Any little thing - BUT you can't TELL anyone what you are doing. Do this for one month and you will feel great, you won't be a perfect person, but you will absolutely know you are much better than you are being given credit for.
2007-07-27 15:26:30 · answer #2 · answered by m 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I gave this question a star just bc there were so many good answers!
I would say that if you're feeling bad about how you're being treated, then THAT is the part of you that knows that they are wrong! Pay attention to that part of you, find your solice, reason and strength there!
No, it won't be an easy thing to face what other people are putting you through, but you can grow out from under their shadows if you stay on your road.
Don't be afraid to face the truths you are going through. How are you being attacked? Is it painful because they are right; then don't be afraid to change. Is it painful because they are misjudging you; then stand up and tell them squarely and fairly what they are wrong about.
(And since you say you're no longer going through it, what do YOU think of it?)
2007-07-27 16:21:11 · answer #3 · answered by sincere12_26 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation you are in. If it was say a boy friend dump and move on to someone that appreciates you more. If it is a husband maybe a counselor might be in order. If it is your parents the same but maybe it is time to let them really know how you feel. If it were a friend think is that really how a friend would treat you.
Bottom line we need to feel good about ourselves and having negative people around can chip away at that no matter how hard we try. You need to love yourself enough to say what you are willing to tolerate. Evita
2007-07-27 15:13:51 · answer #4 · answered by evitabug 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are who you are and it's hard for people to change you. People will just have to accept that and like you for the way you are. Keep telling yourself things to make things feel better.
Also, what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. Survivial of the fittest. If someone g ives you criticism, try not to take it offensively and use it as a learning opportunity to improve yourself. It may not come across to you that way, but their criticism may help you in the future. Keep thinking positively and you'll love yourself.
2007-07-27 15:03:18 · answer #5 · answered by greenpotato 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First you have to take into account what is being said. If its something about drugs or dangerous living, you might not want to hear it, but that doesn't make them wrong.
If its just the usual pick, pick, pick that people love to hand out then you have to be secure in yourself. You don't need a big ego, but you need enough of one to say to them, "Listen enough is enough, this is what I am and I like it and if you don't I'm sorry but this is it, what you see is what you get. Now lets discuss someone Else's shortcomings."
Say it firmly with a smile and they will get the message.
2007-07-27 15:09:45 · answer #6 · answered by justa 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can love yourself by creating boundaries. You can tell people to shut up and get out of your face and tell them that they have no right to talk to you that way. You can distance yourself from toxic people - and create a space or boundary of distance physically. Also, get caller id or do not let them talk to you on the phone. Create a safe place for yourself and then seek to be around more positive people who truly care about you and your well being.
There's a book called "Boundaries" - you can get it at most libraries. It is a very good book.
2007-07-27 15:07:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's true
But we'll always have to remember, when people criticize us, more often than never it's just their own opinion that is subjective. And even this opinion is biased, in a way or another. That goes to show how far away it is from the truth
Sometimes when they actually finds that you're better then they are, they put you down by attacking you, trying to make themself feels better by make you feels more miserable than they are.
2007-07-27 15:21:02 · answer #8 · answered by Hornet One 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Loving yourself has nothing to do with what's going on around you and what's being said. You know what your good qualities are, you know why you make the decisions you make, and you know what you're not so great at... when people don't support you just stick with the things you know and continue to assure yourself that nothing anyone else says can change those things unless you allow them to.
2007-07-27 15:03:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
just always think positive about your self ignore all the bad things in your life u can always post a note to yourslef giving all good details about your self and a day when u are felling down u can read it out loud or think it in your mind, u can even have the note with u everyday if u want !!
2007-07-27 15:04:20 · answer #10 · answered by brown sugar 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋