husband is cheating on me for second time, im 8 weeks pregnant , what to do ?

Question

Hi,
My husband was talking to a girl in bar and got into trouble pushing a cop who tried to talk with the girl ( both my hus and the other girl were intoxicated ) , he went to jail and came out in bail, now he again goes to bar with women, stays late in night like till 11 pm. Is he cheating on me ? or am I very much possesive ? My problem is Im 8 weeks pregnant with our first baby, Can i trust him and keep the baby or do abortion, he is very good at blaming me and he talks in such a way that everybody beleives him, Im afraid that he will take the baby away from me if I go for divorce. He physically and verbally abuses me even now. What shall I do ?

Answer 1

You need to get out of this relationship whether or not he is cheating or not. As you said he is verbally and physically abusing you and that is not o.k. I cant make up your mind about having the child or not but if he is abusing you he could abuse the baby and if he has a record and you dont you should have no problem getting custody of the baby. I really wish you luck I have been in your situation and have finally getting out of one myself so if ya need to talk just let me know. Good Luck, Daisy

Answer 2

I feel bad for you and your situation. Your priority is you and your baby. Does not sound like a healthy relationship and you are very insecure. Why are you allowing yourself to go through this ****! Your're a grown woman and you don't need a man who treats you like he does. You need to be strong, stand your ground, leave the relationship, go somewhere safe and if you want a divorce then get one. By the way, no one can ever take your baby away. Get educated, be smart and do what you have to do! Don't be insecure anymore, don't tolerate the abuse verbal or physical, get out! The way he treats you is not the way a man treats a strong woman! Now, if you continue to make the wrong choices and stay in the relationship, then no one can help you. Good luck!

Answer 3

If you have a good job and parents to help you out, then keep the baby and leave this guy. He isn't serious about you. Face the truth and don't be sad over the guy you hoped he would be and isn't.

You don't need some abusive, drinking guy. Let your life now revolve around your baby.

If, however, you don't have a great job and no support, give the baby up for adoption. There are so many couples in a two family home who would love to have a child. You'd have to get him to sign for that, but he might do it to avoid 18 years of child support.

The one thing you need to do for sure is get out. It's a scary situation and I'm sorry you are in that position. It isn't your fault though so don't feel bad. Get the police involved if you need to.

Good luck!

Answer 4

WOW! That jerk physically abuses you even though you are pregnant? It's NOT ok to do even when you are not pregnant! I really don't believe in abortion, so i will not suggest that. But what I do suggest is that you D-I-V-O-R-C-E him A.S.A.P! Once a woman beater, always a woman beater. Every time he hits you CALL THE POLICE and make a report. File for a divorce and when he tries to take the baby from you point out to the courts that there are many reports of how he abuses you and I gaurantee that he will not get the baby. Suggest to the courts that he only gets SUPERVISED visits so that he can't kidnap the baby. I wish you luck.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Get the hell away from that idiot. He's not a husband. He's a failure! Unfortunately you need to abort or put the baby up for adoption. THAT BABY WILL SUFFER IF IT'S BORN IN THAT LIFE.

Get a Restraining Order so you don't have to deal with him and file for divorce.

He is playing you for the biggest fool. He's cheated already, isn't that enough to get rid of him. He doesn't love you. You obviously don't love yourself if you could let some waste treat you like a dog.

Get rid of him and start from the beginning. Eventually in your new life, you will meet to a wonderful man that truly loves you. That's when words cannot describe how excellent life could be. So hurry up, get moving, you got alot of work to do. I wish you all the luck. God Bless

Answer 7

Get the f u c k away from him now,about the baby only you know how to handle that. Know matter what you do your in for a bad life if you have anything to do with him and having the baby will insure that he will be coming around you for a very long time. Remember it's your body and no one Else's so don't listen to the ahole that tell you your a killer or worse because they are very wrong. F u c k e m !!

Answer 8

Get up and out FAST... Go to a friends or family and set up an appointment with a lawyer who can answer all of your questions.

Him cheating on you is not of importance when he is verbally and physically abusing you. Even now, you say? That you are pregnant with HIS child.... Sure sign that he isn't only going to continue abusing you, he is going to do the same to your children.

Also, you need to seek consoling. I don't want to sound rude, but no mentally healthy adult lets someone else abuse them. Good luck, you're in my prayers/good thoughts.

Answer 9

I'd say the first time someone is unfaithful in a marriage, the marriage can be saved if both of you really want it. But if the same person cheats again.. its time to walk away. He obviously has no respect for you or your marriage and is only thinking of himself and his physical wants. That's not the type of person that needs to be married. You're either putting 100% into your marriage or you're not. Sounds like he's going into the negative.

Answer 10

Let me see. You are saying that he's a heavy drinker, a womanizer, and beats you up physically and verbally... Let me see.... Come on girl..... this guy is off- the -chart bad news! I can't tell you what to do about the baby. I do believe in your choice. But get help from your family and friends and get the hell out of there. Call the cops everytime he touches you! Document everything. Take care of Number One... and that's YOU.