my mom wants me to get a test to see if im still a virgin?

Question

this boy that ive been goin out wit for a year..we had fone sex in umm in april and a coupla weeks like 2 b4 that we had sex well i wasnt allowed to see him anymore..she juss decided that today im allowed to go back out wit him his b day is aug 10 and she said that after every date shes gunna have me tested to see if im a virgin the last time i had sex was in april and it was without a condom...is there anyway from then and now 3 months later that they will b able to tell if theres any DNA in me? and if so is it possible for me to how u say "pop" ur own you kno wat wit masturbating becuz if thats so i think thats wat happened to me b4 i acutally had sex? if u went deep enough?? if theres anything that i can dew or that wud help then not b able to see if i am or not can u tell me plz

Answer 1

There is no test for virginity. She's just concerned about you because she knows you're not mature enough to be having sex. Prove her wrong, always use a condom and get yourself on birthcontrol.

Answer 2

First of all- know there is a law that protects you the minor child with doctor patient condifenduailty. Second-she cannot force you to go to the doctor. However-as a mother and now grandmother. Since you have decided to become sexually active this is the best thing your mother can do for you. There are so many diseases that are life threatening. If would be in YOUR best interest to not keep this a secret from her. You can be given a shot that will protect you from certain cancers. You can recieve birth control so you dont become a young mother which- is common and very difficult. Being honest and open with your mom with only be a benefit for you. You may be scared right now but there may come a time when your fear will be greater and you will want your mom.

Answer 3

Where do you live? If you're in the US then I'm pretty sure your mother isn't allowed to do that. There is doctor-patient confidentiality and I think it applies with teenagers too (I don't know how old you are either, but I'm assuming teenager).

Yes, it is possible to break your hymen down there before having sex. Bike-riding, tampon use, masturbating, they all make it possible. You can say that and the doctor will know this happens. Just so you know, the hymen is right at the opening to the vagina, so you don't need to go "deep" to break it.

I highly doubt they would be able to find any semen in you after that many months, nor would they bother to try.

Just make sure when you do have sex you are being responsible, you should start using condoms.

Answer 4

They cannot tell if you are a virgin or not, don't worry. Even by checking your hymen, each woman hymen is different and not everyone has one.
"You may or may not be able to see the remains of your hymen, because they disappear for different reasons and at different times. Exercising, using a tampon, the hormonal changes during puberty, and sexual activity can all cause the hymen to disintegrate. Whether or not you have a visible hymen says nothing about whether or not you have had sex—it is impossible to tell simply by looking at a woman’s hymen whether she has had sexual intercourse. "
She would need to have a semen swab done or have you vagina tested for condom or lubricant residue...yeah that stuff is not covered by insurance unless you have been raped or sexually assaulted. She is going through a lot to scare you.
Don't worry about this so called test, maybe you should talk to her more about sex and how aware you are of the dangers...because you are aware of the dangers right?

Answer 5

There really is NO test to determine if youre a virgin. The hymen if its broken could be broken for a bunch of different reasons. Also if the doctor checks you out and sees tears or sign of ruff sex that could tell you if you have had sex. Also I'm not so sure if the doctor found if you were having sex he could tell your mother due to Hippa act.

Answer 6

Can I buy a vowel? I hate computer abbreviations.

I agree that she is trying to scare you because she is concerned about you.

The doctor can tell if your hymen is broken, but he can't tell how it got broken.

The hymen is the thin membrane that sometimes covers the opening to the vagina if you're a virgin. I say "sometimes" because, even if you haven't had sex, the hymen can do a bit of a disappearing act due to an overzealous workout at the gym, horseback riding, tampons, and even passionate "heavy petting" with your boyfriend. (It's not an impenetrable barrier, anyway, as it has holes to allow menstrual blood to escape.)

Answer 7

There is NO WAY your mom can find out for sure if you are a virgin unless you end up pregnant or if he was inside you and he caused some abrasions that really only a doctor will be able to see.

If she's looking for a hymen, well that can break doing vigorous activity.

Answer 8

She's trying to scare you...there's no simple test to check and see if your still a virgin. Only a doctor can do that and I seriously doubt if she's going to drag you into the doctors office for that...that's crazy.

Don't worry, she's trying to scare you out of having sex.
I don't know how old you are but maybe you should consider being abstinent.

Answer 9

honey, there is no test. if your mom says otherwise she is wrong. many people say u can see if someone is a virgin because they have broken their hymen, and they are wrong. the hymen can be broken even before a sexual act. it can be broken by playing sports or using a tampon...so aont be worried...u only in your heart, know if you'd had sex.

Answer 10

by the way that ur writting this, i don't think that your old enough to be having sex.... i think that the doctor can only prove/show if your hemen is broken...