My husband in the Millitary, threatens me sexually all the time on the phone, he will be back to visit, threatens to Divorce and take the kids if I don't obey him, I live in fear that the kids could possibly ever be alone with him, he says what he will do to me sexually, and if I say, what if I don't want to, he says that's to bad! he is crazy, any advise, with custody, kids have seen him two weeks out of the year, they are happy right now, and very loved! supervised visitation is the only thing I would feel would be safe.
2007-07-27 12:51:48 · 6 answers · asked by l 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
And it was his choice to live in another state, to work, even though it is Millitary,
2007-07-27 13:42:34 · update #1
Keep a detailed record of his threats and file for divorce. Get protective restraining order against him and contact local womans help group to helpyou get out of this. Courts will protect you if you can prove his threats on you and there will be supervised visits for him if any and no overnights. Also contact local legal aid assoc for free legal help if you qualify
2007-07-27 13:24:16 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need legal advice and proof of what he is saying to you so you will need to document/record telephone calls. A bad spouse does not always equal a bad parent and since he is in the Military being away from home and family is not considered as 'abandonment' by law.
Supervised visits are generally ordered because the non-custodial parent is a threat to the children in some way.
You must get legal advice as what your husband is doing to you is domestic violence abuse.
Good luck.
2007-07-27 20:05:52 · answer #2 · answered by sag_kat2chat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Document everything! Keep any evidence. Otherwise, it is your word against his. File a report with his command and the local police.
Get some legal advise from an attorney. They will usually do an initial consultation for free.
Get all your 'ducks' in a row. Find out everything you can about your financial situation, any property, etc. Start a separate banking account for yourself that he cannot access.
Maybe the military can offer you some counseling. Get all the help you can for yourself and your children to help them deal with this.
2007-07-27 20:20:39 · answer #3 · answered by joyh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, start keeping a record of the calls, record them if possible. get a lawyer and file for divorce yourself. yes they can force supervised visits. what ever you do don't let him make the first moves. good luck to you and your children
2007-07-27 19:58:15 · answer #4 · answered by molyn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my friend was able to do this. you'll have to document all of his threats. record them if possible and get yourself an incredible lawyer. file for divorce now.why do you even listen to his rants?
2007-07-27 20:12:23 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men can't be trusted around children.
Stay far away from him.
2007-07-27 19:54:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋