how can I make myself feel better. My wife wants to separate and she is my one true love.?

Question

I don't know how we got to this point, but it is hard to function daily. we have a 3 yr old together and I hate to think of breaking up my family. i love her, i love her, i love her!!!

we have been going to marriage counceling. she wiil not bend.
Thank you for your kind thoughts..

Answer 1

I am sorry that you love someone that doesn't or can't love you in return, but you cannot change another person. You can change yourself and your thought process has to change. Instead of saying or thinking "I love her, I love her, I love her" say instead, "I love myself and my child and will have a good life with or without my wife". Easier said than done, I know. Sometimes you have to act happy before you actually are.

Answer 2

I am so sorry for your pain. Have you thought about marriage counseling ? Or will your wife go that far ? Your three year old will be doing better in the long run if you two are not happy with one another. The grieving process is hard but if it's over it is over. You have to face reality of this. Feel the pain to the fullest of your being the way you would if you were feeling Ecstasy. I went threw this and I thought I would die from the emotional pain. My older sister told me to do this and then left me sitting with my heart in my lap. I thought her to be the coldest she had ever been. Well it turns out it is the one of the most helpful things that any one has ever said to me. I did what she suggested and it was at that point of acceptance of the relationship being over with that I was able to embrace the pain and as time went on it healed me by this process. You have to feel the pain and there is no way out. Be available for your daughter emotionally by dealing with this even at three ( the most learning years they say), she is learning in her sleep even. God bless you and say your prayers and the lord will be there for you . Wishing you all the best and I will be praying for you.

Answer 3

I know the feeling, but you are going to have to let her make her decision. If you force her to choose, you will lose. Talk to her and see if she wants to work it out or not. If she doesn't at least talk about the 3yr and how she want to co parent the child. They are the most important part of this relationship now. Sorry if she doesn't want to get back together. But respect her choice and move forward in your life, there will be other that will love you like you love your wife. God Bless and Good Luck.

Answer 4

Try commenting her on how she looks, take her out to dinner, just show her how much you really care about her. Something worked before because you got married and had a kid together. Whatever it was, figure it out and do that again! Maybe buy her some roses, tell her your sorry, just sit down and talk about the problems that are occuring. Talking is the key!

Answer 5

Sit down with your wife and find out whats the problem

Answer 6

hey, I know how you feel I thought I lost my TRUE LOVE too but keep your chin high (as hard as that might be) keep a good positive outlook on things and trust me you WILL find the one you should of been with all the long..

Answer 7

love is foolish sometime..you can someone your better..you still get problems....when a man and lady become with kids..their should work it out ..some kind of way....if not you will see the pain

Answer 8

suggest counseling and work through the issues. the best way to really listen is for you to explain yourself to a professional nd have her explain herself. you understand sooooooo much about your self and you partner. showing up shows how much you care and prioritize this relationship.