My partner has a porn addiction. I didn't mind when it was just a bit of fun between the 2 of us but it is now getting ridiculous! He promised me he would stop but I think he has been doing it again. How can I check? He deletes it out of history but I know there is another way!
2007-07-27 11:01:10 · 26 answers · asked by kazwaz01 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Actually I give my man plenty and am not at all prudish in the bedroom! That is why I don't understand why he wants to look at this all the time!
2007-07-27 11:17:34 · update #1
Search for "temporary internet files" on your computer. There will be some folders there that may have information. You can tell how current they are by the date associated with them.
2007-07-27 11:08:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. First of all - you ALREADY know about this addiction. Secondly, he PROMISED he would stop, but you ALREADY know that he probably hasn't. A person who is ADDICTED just 'doesn't stop' . Thirdly - if I were you , I would not care what he was looking at - it's obvious he is lying to you. You deserve to be with someone who is not going to lie to you - and you should understand that people who are addicted to porn can move into other areas of darkness that can be harmful. Do you really want to go digging into something you already know is going on? My suggestion is for you to leave this loser. I know you probably have been involved for a while, but I don't see this going anywhere but down for you and your partner. Talk to your partner and then make a decision.
2007-07-27 11:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's a software on the market that you can install that will trace everything that has been done with your computer. I forget the exact name but if you go into a store and ask for a tracking software I bet you'll find it quickly. But why be sneaky though? If he can't tell you the truth about his addiction then he's not ready to get help anyhow and will still be looking at porn weather you like it or not.
2007-07-27 11:07:07 · answer #3 · answered by ♥§weetiepie♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can go to several places on your comp to check what has been looked at. First you can go to View in your toolbar and highlight the explorer bar, then look in history.
the best one is to go to the control panel on your start button, then go to network and internet connections, then internet options. this will pull up internet properties box, in the box look for the delete history icon. Click on settings, then click on view files. about the 3rd column will say date accessed. click on it and see what sites he goes to. this will show you if he has any extra e-mail accounts. It looks intimidating but take your time and you will sort through it. Also check at the bottom of that box for the number of days the history is kept. Save as many days as you want.
2007-07-27 11:12:55 · answer #4 · answered by rbsorry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm this could be something that he has a problem with. My ex used to do that too. No matter how much sex we had he would look at porn and call phone sex operators. In the end it wasnt me that wasnt giving enough, or wasnt good enough, he had a problem, sounds like your guy does too. You can check and see if he has profiles on things like Xpeep or adult friend finder...at least you can see if he is cheating.
2007-07-27 11:12:37 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember porn is not free...
Some how he have to be charge...
So in the bank statement I guess is the easy way.
You don't really have to SEE the actual internet site...
Just with te bank statements or the credit cards statement.
It will show the company name or so and it won't say is a porn site but you can google the internet site and call to see. What was charged for etc. start from there and so.
2007-07-27 11:12:47 · answer #6 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why become a computer forensic expert when you already know what he's doing. He's deleting his Internet history for a reason, and you know that reason. Confront him with a ultimatum: SEEK HELP vs. ME LEAVING.
Simply as that. This isn't your husband, you don't want to waste time on a lost cause that you have to legal, moral, or paternal obligation to.
2007-07-27 11:07:13 · answer #7 · answered by NURSING FOR LIFE!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your partner is looking at porn its probably because you are not giving him what he needs. its not really an addiction its a fulfillment of his needs. aside from that you should get off him for looking at porn. for one im sure hes gotten a few ideas of stuff to do with you from what hes seen. secondly it really is harmless, short of computer viruses or friction burn, and thirdly if you really want him to stop then make sure he has no need for it. but of the utmost importance is to never ever snoop on someone that you claim to care about. it will just cause issues between the two of you. he will be mad that you were spying on him and you will be mad that he lied to you then neither of you will talk to eachother about the problem you will just yell at eachother about something extremely stupid.
2007-07-27 11:07:53 · answer #8 · answered by Lorena 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The question is .. Why would you want to check up on his internet activities??
IF you feel the need to check behind him.. that says that you already don't trust him and feel the need to be his Mommy.
So...
If he has been lying to you and continuing his behavior on the internet.. what are you prepared to do. If nothing.. then don't check.. If you intend to leave him.. why wait for an excuse? You already don't trust him.. so leave now.
2007-07-27 11:54:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit being one of "those" girls.. don't spy on him. If he is looking at porn so what? Most guys do.. just let him do it, it is not that big of a deal.. but either way would you rather have him be looking at porn or be talking to other females online? Leave your guy alone and quit making him hide it and maybe he wouldn't be so into it. Or start being more sexy and appealing to him so that you can get his mind off of it if it bothers you so much.
2007-07-27 11:05:36 · answer #10 · answered by meeeeeeeee2681 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋