how did you deal with it, has it scarred you for life? or did you learn to move on..
2007-07-27 10:19:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
One of my best friends passed away last year. Then another tragically early this year. It was devestating. I was utterly heartbroken. I didn't know how I'd survive I missed them so much.
But somehow you survive. You grieve. You cry. You bawl your heart out. You reminisce. You look at pictures. You keep the memory alive. I'm a singer songwriter so I wrote a few songs about him & sang them for an audience. It was therapeutic. There was comfort in remembering him and paying tribute to his memory. Gone, but not forgotten. I also have photos of him and paintings of him that I did hanging around the house.
I also have a little altar built next to my bed honouring him. I keep his picture in my wallet & wear a necklace in memory of him.
I suppose you could say I'm scarred for life in a sense. That pain is like a tattoo I will carry forever. I miss him. I love him. I always will. But in another sense, the scar heals. The hurt lessens eventually. I don't just curl into a ball and cry forever. I move on with my life.
Death is an inevitable part of life's cycle. We can not stop it. We may get angry when a loved one passes unexpectedly. We are sad, shocked etc. We go through all the stages of grief. It's only natural. But eventually we realize that yes we are mortal beings. We never know when we're going to go. That's why life is so precious. I cherish every moment I had with my little angel. Even though he broke my heart by passing much too soon. I cherish every memory with my dear friend even though he was too fragile for this world and it was so hard to lose him. That's why they say it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. Love the people you love. Adore them. One day they may be gone. Appreciate them today.
2007-07-27 10:43:13 · answer #1 · answered by amp 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) A lot of my growing up with an overly strict mother.
2) Having my heart broken by being left by my partner of three years.
How'd I deal?
1) I moved away to out West and had a lot of fun, gained a whole new perspective on how to loosen up. Lots of counseling, reading and healing. It's always there, but there's always a choice to be happy anyway. So "scarred for life" is kinda strong. Many times our greatest suffering becomes our greatest strength because we learn so much about that thing.
2) I think the events we experience as adults - like big break ups are just opportunities to heal what really hurt from before. Like in this case, wanting someone to feel the emptiness that my mom left. It felt so real at the time, like I would die, but now I see it was just part of the healing. We find opportunities to heal.
2007-07-28 16:55:55 · answer #2 · answered by JAppleseed013 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The lowest point of my life is when I lost my mother to a drug overdose. I guess the really bad part about it is that she didn't raise me, so I didn't get to spend much time with her. I moved in with her when I was sixteen, and she died one month to the day after my eighteenth birthday. Sometimes I think it's not just the fact that she died that hurts, but the way she died. But I thank God for the time that I did have with her, and also for the fact that she is no longer suffering. I wouldn't say that it has scarred me for life, but I find it hard at times to move on because I still feel that she was the only person in this world who truly loved me unconditionally.
2007-07-28 04:12:43 · answer #3 · answered by The Voice of Reason Is Silenced 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both. I feel my soul has a scar. I will never forget the incident. It made me aware of certain things, and in a way this awareness is valuable. I moved on with life; pain does not paralyze me. The event zapped my energy for a while, but I got up and kept on walking. I found new reasons to live.
2007-07-27 20:17:16 · answer #4 · answered by epistemology 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the people I love suffer I do, and I move on by helping them move on.
2007-07-27 17:26:31 · answer #5 · answered by shmux 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am suffering now, and I am trying to move on it seems like it will never end. But I know it will. You need to stay strong and have faith. Most of all believe in yourself. You are #1. Take care of you.
2007-07-27 17:33:57 · answer #6 · answered by Wandering Jenni 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lost my first wife in a car wreck after just six months of marriage. She was eighteen and pregnant. Did I learn to move on? Both yes and no.
2007-07-27 17:47:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Suffering is self-inflicted. We can choose to be free of suffering if we are willing to understand the concepts of the mind.
2007-07-27 18:32:31 · answer #8 · answered by guru 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I did move on and on and on and on... Today I will do the same.
2007-07-27 17:23:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋