Basically me and my wife have separated. I really miss her...she asked for the split...painful for both of us and kids...no one else involved...after17 yearstogather I guess routine took its toll and we forgot about our selves...she says she does not love me but has still extreme deep feeling for me...she says she could never love anyone else like she did me...doesn't take the pain away...been7 months....miss her and the kids...is there a chance she may oneday realise that she still loves me? HELP!!!!
2007-07-27 09:38:39 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
arrrh. yes. for me, reality would hit. it would take longer than 7 months to see the whole picture again. she would take longer than you to realize what she's throwing it away. it's different from person to person for how long it would take to take it all in. and find the definition of love. if you're willing, give her more time.
2007-07-27 09:48:29 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I remarried my first husband, the father of my only child, after being divorced 10 years. During our time apart, each of us experienced another failed marriage. Our second marriage to each other was wonderful. During our time apart, he grew up and was the husband, and father, I always hoped for. Our love was always there, we just could not live together. I am sure we would have had a lot of happy years together, had he not been taken from me in a tragic accident. I would advise anybody to try again, if the feelings are still there. Be sure to follow this word of caution: Leave everything that caused you to part, and anything in between, in the past. Wipe the slate clean and look forward to a great future together. Good luck.
2007-07-27 17:22:18 · answer #2 · answered by ladystar879 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I will always have a special place in my heart for my first husband. A feeling that I don't carry with any other but I would never get back with him. She might mean feelings in that way if you were high school sweethearts etc. Don't get your hopes up but because you have children and no one else is involved, there could be chance for reconciliation. That will have to be her move. Give her space and time. I'm sorry about this.
2007-07-27 16:48:30 · answer #3 · answered by Wonder Woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband wanted a divorce. He moved out on our 22nd anniversary. He said he'd fallen out of love with me. I allowed myself to see his faults...the things I'd given him a free pass on for years. 6 days and 4 intensely honest phone calls later he called late late at night and asked to come back. I decided that our marriage was worth giving it a try, even though I was disillusioned and sad and had lost trust. I would have been fine without him because i am strong, but if we try and fail at least we will be able to say we left no stone unturned. The desire for divorce was 100% him, but our marriage & it's troubles were 50% mine + 50% his.
We are now in marriage counseling, and are creating a new marriage & relationship. I read great books on avoiding divorce and becoming reacquainted with your spouse and they're really helping. Me at least.I can only work on myself and hope that affects changes. People change over time, but we get stuck with old ideas of each other. Get to know her now, as she is, and let her re-meet you. Then you'll see if you have something or not. Books also say that people who fall out of love make a choice, and falling back in is also a choice. You can't make her choose the path you'd like, but if you change the things that alienated her in the first place, as long as you can still be true to yourself, you can give your relationship another chance. Good Luck.
2007-07-27 18:46:17 · answer #4 · answered by Amy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I did and it was a huge mistake.
We were together off and on for 10 years.
5 years have passed now.
I think I am finally free and I feel I have finally broken away from this person who caused me so much grief, time and energy.
Sure, there were good times, but it wasnt worth all that I put into it.
I did everything I could.
I am in a better place now and I know I will love again. This time I will choose much more carefully.
2007-07-27 16:43:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It never really comes back. Once you lose interest in somebody to the point of leaving them, you are never going to find them that interesting again. If you had done more dating, you would know this. You could get back together for the kids if you can be nice to each other, but romance isn't ever going to be that great, and you're going to have trouble respecting each other. Sorry man.
2007-07-27 17:01:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when you take a break from a relationship or marriage, you realized your true feelings for then. Sometimes its good, sometimes it bad. Just let your wife be for a little bit. Don't pressure her, but show that you are still there for her. If you give her enough time and room but show that you still care for her, she just might come back to you!
2007-07-27 16:43:37 · answer #7 · answered by Somebody Unique 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The greatest answer would be yes, wouldn't it? The best I can tell you is no one could answer that for you but time and your wife.
My advice to you is keep yourself busy and never be the man of guilt trip, always make your time with her about you and the family. Let her see that you can be strong too.
Good Luck! My heart goes out to you.
2007-07-27 16:45:50 · answer #8 · answered by olivia m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My aunt and uncle remarried each other after a very odd split. They remarried 10 years ago and are still together. My friend remarried her husband and they are fine. It does and can happen and it's not all bad. Or good.
2007-07-27 16:51:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't. Ex means erase every thought, memory, item, or anything that relates to them. Its like washing the black board clean and starting over without any thought of what used to be and just looking forward at what could be.
2007-07-27 16:48:56 · answer #10 · answered by Housecat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋