They are 38 and 35. I was in their weddings but I was 14 and 20 then.
2007-07-27 09:27:14 · 20 answers · asked by **** 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Are the inlaws on your husbands side? If so, I would include them for my soon to be spouse
2007-07-27 09:35:16 · answer #1 · answered by chip t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a limit, however if there are family politics going on or you just want to make them feel good about the joining of two families, put them in the wedding.
Consider though - Do they "really" want to be in the wedding? Can they afford to be in the wedding, unless you're footing the bill? Do they live near the wedding site?
My sisters, 40 and 42, recently were in a wedding. It was a beautiful experience and they were so honored!
2007-07-27 09:36:45 · answer #2 · answered by Brian G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no law saying what you have to do at your wedding. As the bride, it really is your show.
However please keep in mind that no wedding is ever perfect, and also that the ceremony is just one day, whereas your marriage will go on for the rest of your life. Your family, his family, all the friends and relatives that are attending... these are people that you will be seeing again some time in the future. My advice is not to purposely do anything to make your future relationships with these people strained or bad.
If you don't want your sister-in-laws to be bridesmaids, that's your choice. Just realize that if they are hurt and feel rejected there may be complications further down the road. Also, it seems strange to me that you wouldn't want them in your ceremony as you are obviously close enough to them that they wanted you to be in their ceremonies. It just doesn't make a whole lot of sense to me to start off the very first day of your marriage trying to start drama with your in-laws.
So if you are dead set against having them be bridesmaids, maybe find a gentle way to tell them about it that makes sense on all sides ('We don't have enough groomsmen to match' for example).
Good luck with your marriage, I hope it brings you and your husband much joy.
2007-07-27 09:49:40 · answer #3 · answered by Jon S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, there isn't an age limit and you don't have to include them, but it might be nice to ask. They may not be interested in being a bridesmaid, but would rather do a reading or a song with their husbands.
2007-07-27 09:30:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there isnt a age limit to bridesmaids, and no you do not have to include them if that is not what you want. It is a day for you and the groom, if you dont want them in it, then dont. Just because you were in theirs doesn't mean that you have to have them in yours, it doesn't work that way.
2007-07-27 09:33:23 · answer #5 · answered by How can I help? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no limit on bridesmaids. Nor do you really have to have one. It is your wedding and you should do what you want without worrying about offending anyone.
2007-07-27 09:32:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A bridesmaid can be any age. Are these women your FUTURE sisters-in-law or your brother's wives. If they are future, include them for the sake of family life to come. If not, only include them if you feel close to them. Don't include just one, though. Hurt feelings will arise.
2007-07-27 15:02:20 · answer #7 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not obligated to have anyone as a bridesmaid - in fact, you're not obligated to have any at all - but if their age is the only reason you'd rather not have them, you're just being shallow. Try to at least come up with a better excuse if you're not going to ask them. (Though who knows? You may get lucky, and find out they think they're too old for it.)
2007-07-27 09:33:36 · answer #8 · answered by MM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to invite anyone to be in your wedding. But since you were in theirs you might give them another "job" like a reading. Also, there is no age limit!
2007-07-27 09:31:09 · answer #9 · answered by Marygoroun(d) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no age limit nor do you have to have them stand. It is your wedding and you should do what you are comfortable with. I don't believe in the hole I stood in hers so she has to stand in mine thing. It is completely up to you and what you want. If you are really close to them and want them there then by all means do have them but don't feel obligated.
2007-07-27 09:36:32 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Nikkee D ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there Isn't an age limit. No you don't have to put them in yours cause you were in theirs. But you should give them something special to do like decorating for the reception.
2007-07-27 09:32:19 · answer #11 · answered by shellysd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋