basically i had an affair with this guy, Ted. He asked me to dump my husband for him. initially i said no, but within i a week i changed my mind. i wrote him a love letter on how much i wanted to be wtih him , and i went home to dump my husband the very same day. i could not get ahold of ted for weeks. after 3 weeks i got ahold of him he said to call him sunday. i called sunday and some girl answerd and said they just had sex. he called a week later to tell me he moved in with someone else. then he ignored me. i started moving on. he called out of the blue practically BRAGGINg that he was having a baby with her. he treid to get me back the night the baby was born and made a few more attempts after that. I told him NO i was soo hurt and now he had this baby with her. it was awful for me. Anyways that was 5 years ago. About 6 months ago we found each other again through the web. he claiming he still lvoes me & im the one who got away. i asked him why then, did he get with her.
2007-07-27 08:50:27 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He claims its because he felt that i was using him as a boy toy on the side. Is this horse ****? also, he been trying to get back with me all these months, when i finally told him yes i want you too, then he dumps me A SECOND time for the other woman saying " Oh i just cant do that to her and my son" after he pursued me. i dont know if it was intentially to hurt me or what. what do u make of this man's actions? and please leave out the lectures about cheating i know that it was wrong.. thats why i refuesed to help him cheat on his wife.
2007-07-27 08:51:37 · update #1
he was NOT my boy toy you idiot, that was HIS perception of it. learn to read.
2007-07-27 08:54:26 · update #2
I think you are an idiot. And this man is just taking advantage of it.
Stop being such a sucker.
2007-07-27 08:53:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm well I say move on!! It was wrong for you to have a affair. If you did that with him then what makes you think that he wouldnt do that to you? Stop acting defenseless, you need to get a book called "Its called a break-up for a reason, BY Greg Berhart". This book helped me get over my ex husband and see that I was the only one who thought I was a victim because I made myself one. So girl, go and be the rockstar you are and find yourself a new man! Commit yourself to that relationship and DO NOT cheat again...there is no need for it. If you dont love the person you are with then change it, dont cheat. Have a super day!
2007-07-27 15:57:12 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you don't have any sense. How many times are you gonna get egg on your face before you realize that these kind of guys are gonna always let you down. The only victim here, is your husband. So much for the sanctity of a holy union. Next time you want to cheat, try to find a guy who takes the price tag off his hat BEFORE he wears it out in public.
2007-07-27 16:02:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh yea, get back together, it sounds lke a really good idea. Oh yea and when he craps on you again, then wants you back, just keep on doing that. It obviously makes you feel good to get dumped, so you might as well keep on doing it, hopefully he has AIDS now so then you can have a AIDS relationship. What a wonderful life that would be!!!
2007-07-27 15:57:22 · answer #4 · answered by Bill 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For starters a relationship that starts through adultery will never work, EVER so you can forget about it. As far as what he's doing, I can't believe you even took him back after the first time he did that to you. You need to break all ties with him and find you a real man
Never leave the one you love for the one you like because the one you like will leave you for the one they love
2007-07-27 15:56:03 · answer #5 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, he doesn't believe he was your boy toy. You were there when he when he needed you, and he was there when you needed him. He probably though in the back of his mind that you are capable of cheating on your spouse and it wasn't going to turn into anything permanent anyways. Just cut the strings and don't call him or take his calls.
2007-07-27 15:57:56 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is playing you!!!! Ignore him...if the relationship makes you feel like you are riding on a roller coaster then it isn't right!
And if you don't take my advice, I've got some ocean front property in Oklahoma I'd like to sell you.
2007-07-27 15:59:36 · answer #7 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people are determined to learn the hard way! what is wrong with you? move on and leave this loser alone! i'll bet money that you're not the only one he's been playing. i sincerely hope that you don't give the opportunity to DUMP YOU a THIRD time! wake up!!!!!!!!
2007-07-27 15:56:45 · answer #8 · answered by luv 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Umm...He was your boy toy. Did you miss that point? On top, you cheated on your husband. You deserve what you got for cheating.
Do NOT call me an idiot....you cheated on your husband. He was the person you cheated with. That is a boy toy.
You're the idiot for throwing away a marriage and cheating on your husband.
Cheaters deserve theirs, and you got yours. Don't get pissed at me for stating a FACT
2007-07-27 15:53:48 · answer #9 · answered by chaoss13 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just leave him alone period. Just reading the story has my pounding so I can 't imagine you feeling like a yo-yo. There are tons of men out there have fun learning about them and leave this guy alone.
2007-07-27 15:57:57 · answer #10 · answered by nicki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋