Why is that after delivery, the mother feels that her baby means the world to her and sheis kinda drifted from

Question

Why is that after delivery, the mother feels that her baby means the world to her and sheis kinda drifted from her husband. Is this normal?

Answer 1

She feels that way because the baby DOES mean the world to her and that's as it should be. Bonding between mother and baby after birth is essential and crucial to the wellbeing of both. A husband should be understanding of this. Being somewhat distant from her husband should be only a temporary thing for the mother. As the weeks pass the intensity of that first bonding will ease up a little as mother and baby feel more secure in the world, and the father gets to spend more time with the baby.

However, if months have passed and the mother is still devoting 100% of herself to the baby only then something is wrong. She needs to be aware that the family involves everyone and the 2 people that hold the family together are husband and wife. That is the first and most important relationship and must be continually nurtured.

Answer 2

The baby is a new addition to a woman's life,sum1 for whom she waited all these months,nursing it in her womb.The baby is totally dependent on her and hence she feels more responsible and takes it to her mind tht her little one can't do without her,while her husband can,coz he's a grown-up.So,she starts revolving her life around the baby,gradually drifting away from her hubby.

However,this is a wrong attitude to adopt coz,without the husband's contribution,a baby won't be able to come into this world and make a woman a mother.

A woman shud always be grateful to her husband for tht.She shud make her husband realise tht though she may not be able to spend much time with him like before,her love for him has not diminished and tht she wud always be there for him ! And of course,these feelings shud be reciprocated from the husband's side too !!

Answer 3

Completely normal. Nature made it this way for a reason. Your baby is dependent on you completely for food, safety, warmth, care, comfort, everything. You have coresponding hormones and natural things that happen to your body that make you also need your baby.

It is important, however, to try to spend time with your husband and baby together as a family, to tell your husband that you love him, and to let your husband know how much you "need" and love him. Husbands often feel left out of the mom-baby relationship and need to be told and shown that they are loved and important to you and the baby too. It can help to give dad a job that only dad does, like read a bedtime story to your newborn or give baby a bath each night. If mom takes all the jobs, dad might feel like he's not needed at all and will feel disconnected from the family.

It's completely normal for mom's attention to be 100% on baby. It takes a bit of effort to share love. Nothing wrong with it. It doesn't mean you don't love your husband as much anymore or anything like that. It's just nature's way of making sure that precious baby is loved and cared for.

Answer 4

Yeah. There's a whole other person in your life that wasn't there before. Plus, mom's hormones are out of whack since the delivery. It can be hard to adjust. Don't be afraid to talk to your doctor about how you're feeling. Sometimes a thyroid condition or depression can develop, which makes it harder to function. Your doctor can help ease these problems and make the transition easier.

Answer 5

I would agree that it is normal. I know it happened with both of my children. Mommy's are the #1 care givers but we often forget to care for ourselves. Not only do you need to let Dad do some of the caring for the baby, but you need to give one another some one on one time to 'rebond' post baby (watching TV together, sharing chores, cooking/eating together while baby is sleeping, etc). Everything doesn't have to be sexual...snuggling, talking, holding hands...etc. My husband and I enjoy laying in bed, snuggled up, and watch tv after we put the kids to bed...if we decide to move forward sexually, great!! If not, at least we've had a few private moments together to regroup.

Good luck!

Answer 6

she's been carrying around this child for the past 9 months. SHE has.. so she feels this extremely strong bond for her child. Seeing the child after carrying it for so long, is a special moment for mother and child. I was the same after I had my baby... We went through so much together when she was still in my stomach. I talked to her everyday and I was able to feel her every moves when I spoke. When she came out and even now, she will only turn her head straight towards mommy whenever I am around.

Answer 7

It is really natural and that is the way it should be for a dependent child.
The mother expects her husband to accept this and she needs extra care now by her husband than ever.
He can baby sit for sometime and make his wife relax for sometime. This may help her to care for her husband also.

Answer 8

In the first few days, yes. It's a process to promote bonding between mommy and baby.

But if it has been going on for longer than a couple of weeks, something else may be going on.

Answer 9

i feel the baby is attached to the mother directly,,, for 9 months and then she knows and it is true that the baby is fully and wholly dependent on her...without her the baby cant manage or do anything.. whereas i feel the husbands are quiet mature and know the problem and can handle themselves...

Answer 10

hey it is normal coz when a women gives birth to her baby it is a part of her so she will love her very much
by the way when i be a father i'll also love her the way a mother does & he/she will mean the world to me
what about you