and what can, (or should) You do...if they dont?
or must you accept that they are merely aquaintances and not friends, if they seem to hold your friendship in such low regard, that they cant be bothered to visit you or keep in touch?
2007-07-27 08:33:03 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i had friends like this so i stopped phoning them and i haven't heard from them since last xmas ,so there not really friends at all
2007-07-27 08:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would eventually not contact them if I felt they didn't care in the same way I did. I have done this in the past and found it was my job to maintain the relationships but now I just don't want them if it's not reciprocated with some sort of effort. Unless of course there is a really important reason why they are unable to. Such as a mental health problem or age related problems.
If it's real keep it and if it's pretend and you can be sure of that then end it.
It's painful if you're the sort of person who becomes attached emotionally to people though.
I hope it all works out for you. :)
2007-07-27 12:05:00 · answer #2 · answered by : 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually, for me, it's not reasonable to expect something in return for your visits and phone calls. It's like asking a host to gift you for your host gift at a dinner.
I am a loner by choice and prefer to visit and phone my friends on my own terms. They have known this about me for years and have accepted me for who I am.
I am grateful and accommodating when they visit or call. but they also know, that when I say I cannot make it, I cannot make it. Even if the reason is as simple as wanting to rest, they will understand.
These are the kinds of friendships that even if you do not see them for a month or a year, you can meet and pick up where you left off. You know that they love you and will be there for you no matter the situation.
2007-07-27 08:49:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could tell you cus I am going through the same thing. I have a couple who are friends. I call and go to there house and they ask me to but they never come to my house or call. But when I don't come over and call they get upset. Thats a tough question. I think we should both ask are friends to come over for dinner or something and see what they say if they say no then ask why. May you need to search for a new friend
2007-07-27 08:38:21 · answer #4 · answered by youcandoit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have answered your own question my friend unless they have some physical res on for not visiting save your money on the phone if they are friends they will ring to find out why they haven't heard from you if they don't you have lost nothing
2007-07-27 08:40:04 · answer #5 · answered by Roger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you should never expect anything from something you have done from others. they just don't think about visiting or phoning people as much as you. and besides they don't have to call or visit you because you will do it for them. they will wait for you to call or visit
2007-07-27 08:39:30 · answer #6 · answered by KAT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not phone them or keep in touch with them end ov xx
2007-07-27 09:01:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely reasonable because in my opinion, friendships should be 50/50
2007-07-27 08:40:24 · answer #8 · answered by rwkchic 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is very reasonable. If they don't keep in contact with you and you know they have your number, then forget them.
2007-07-27 08:35:42 · answer #9 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is reasonable but don't worry about it it just means you don't have to worry about entertaining them
2007-07-27 09:53:33 · answer #10 · answered by Giggle Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋