He's 36 and I'm 38 so we're not kids. Maybe I'm just insecure, but he chats w/them on the phone, always is invited to a "female" friend's party, etc. He brings me, but I wonder if he has had sex with them, if there is history there.. Ladies, you know what I'm talking about. He has just as many male friends, and of course I don't have a problem with that. should I have a reason to worry or should I get over it????
2007-07-27 08:10:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Personally, I dont think you should be worried.
Of course the devil is in details which you have not put too many here.
I dont think that he has sex with them, otherwise he would not bring you along.
Are the female friends married? Or at least with someone?
I really dont think you have a reason to worry. I think your worry may come from some insecurities that you have about yourself.
Good Luck.
2007-07-27 08:19:20 · answer #1 · answered by Dimitar A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a perfect world we should be able to have all kinds of friends but in realty its a hard thing to handle. I would say as long as he is open and always invites you and you can become friends with the girls then give it a trial run if you choose to. Are these girls friendly with you? Do they act funny when your around or ignore you? There are signs to watch. Remember keep your friends close and your enemy's closer. Since you say he has just as many friends in both directions its (probably okay). But only you know what you can handle and what you can't and that's how you should live your life. As long as he doesn't hide the conversations from you. Such as only talk or email at work. Talks openly about them to you. As long as you come first. And last but not least he doesn't bring up anything personal about the two of you to them. Thats where the hard part comes in. Some men become involved as just friends and if a woman becomes the confidant sometimes it gets a little risky. You were a friend once. I say go with your gut feeling. Only you know how he is and what he is capable of. If he is true to you and only you.
Just be aware and keep your eyes and ears open. Tell him if it makes you ineasy also. he may not know and you can gage his reaction also. Good Luck
2007-07-27 15:22:41 · answer #2 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to relax, just because he has many female friends doesn't mean he's going to sleep with any of them. He's with you, and the fact that he takes you with him shows that he's not hiding anything from his other female friends. They know who you are. This isn't worth getting worked up over.
I have alot of guy friends and only a few female friends, but that doesn't mean that I have or will sleep with any of my male friends. They're just people I enjoy spending time with, no harm done. If my current boyfriend had a problem with any of my male friends he wouldn't have been around for so long. Relax, he's with you! You have nothing to worry about.
2007-07-27 15:19:28 · answer #3 · answered by Marissa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hell no! You both are naive and stupid to believe this arrangement will work. You will get burned. Almost all affairs start out as "friends" with the opposite sex.
One of his friends might go through a bad break up, cry on your hubby's shoulder, and then bang your husband.
Or your husband might not get enough sex from you one month, and then start checking out his so called friends.
Tell him that his only girlfriend should be you. I am sure if you hung out with a hunk, he would get jealous real fast.
2007-07-27 15:35:38 · answer #4 · answered by David S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. he probably has slept with one or two them, I grew up with about 20 guys. Every guy I have dated freakd out, but there's nothing going on. Trust me don;t make him choose you maybe get left out in the cold. I'm 31 and until this day, I still have mostly male friends. I have always desired a person secure enough to handle that, I have slept with a couple of my friends years ago, thats' the past.
2007-07-27 15:22:19 · answer #5 · answered by The Mrs. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If there is a balance in his friendships (number of male vs. female) and you are around when he is in contact with them, I think you should relax. If he goes out after work with the girls or goes to parties without you, that is a problem
2007-07-27 15:26:50 · answer #6 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's ok for people to have friends of the opposite sex. Stop being so insecure. If you are worried about it then talk to him.
2007-07-27 15:21:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
my opinion is that just ask or ask his friend if he cheated on cheated on u it's up to u 2 decide weather or not 2 be with him get it from me my husband did the same thing i got a divorce and I'm proud of it i love being single and living the life.
2007-07-27 15:18:05 · answer #8 · answered by mammie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that WOMEN ARE INSANE tells me that men aren't just friends with women. And that many? Yeah; sure. Ok, some are. I guess. But why doesn't he have male friends?
2007-07-27 15:14:16 · answer #9 · answered by ron-D 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No, I don't know what you're talking about. I wouldn't put up with that **** from any man.
2007-07-27 15:17:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋