My 5 kids are teens (15-19) and their father died five years ago. I've been dating this guy for two years, he shares teh same morals on parenthood as me. His kids have all graduated from high school and are in college. We've talked about marriage,just not mentioned it to our kids, and we think we're ready, do you think I should remarry?
2007-07-27 08:05:25 · 11 answers · asked by Karen Lynk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes I do . I think your husband would want you to be happy the rest of your life. Asking God he will guide you in the right direction....God Bless my your new life get ever better.finding love is the best way to live....God Bless your family......
2007-07-27 08:28:30 · answer #1 · answered by Tina the cat lover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can not help but notice that the word "love" is totally missing from your query. Do you truly love him? And he you? It sounds like you're good companions. And share similar values. That's good. But is it enough? Can one be happy in a loveless marriage? I would urge you not to remarry just because you're ready to be married again. There needs to be more than that.
You also haven't mentioned how he gets along with your kids. Or how you get along with his. Not that that should completely dictate your decision. But it is an important factor. One almost never marries an individual; one marries a family. And that entire dynamic is a huge factor in the likely success of the marriage.
It would be wonderful for you to remarry. I just want to see you do it for the right reasons and in such a way that the entire combined families can be happy about it.
2007-07-27 08:25:55 · answer #2 · answered by Tom K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to live your own life. I think the ages 15-19 can be problematic. Kids feel that they own their parents and they may be resentful. I know of 13 year olds who didn't like it that their mother was considering getting married. I'm sorry but I'd tell my 13 year old that I'm the parent. I've lived through being carted around & not having my feelings considered. It's not good. If you have the feeling that your children would cause problems don't get married until they are out of the house.
2007-07-27 08:11:22 · answer #3 · answered by blkmiss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes if you love each other and want to be together. I was widowed after 3 years of marriage (I was 18 at the time). I thought my life was over and would never remarry again. Thank God I had my daughter to keep me together.
Of course I did remarry. I think it is okay to follow your heart on this one. And your kids will adjust
2007-07-31 07:22:36 · answer #4 · answered by MrsRusty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are happy with this person, and you want to spend the rest of your life with him, then YES I think you should remarry!
Life is too short. Don't waste any time. If you 2 want to be together day and night, then go for it and get married.
My Father has been gone for 18 years now, and my Mother is still all alone. My sister and I are both grown (in our 40's) and we have families of our own. But we absolutely hate it that our Mother is all alone. I wish she would find someone like you did and be able to enjoy life again.
Congratulations to you
Best Wishes :D
2007-07-27 08:11:20 · answer #5 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you don't put this man before your children, it may work. Understand that children begin to feel rejected, when another man comes into the home. You have to be careful about this, especially with teenagers. They are at a critical age, where they can easily feel unwanted. Never should they be required to call this man daddy, and never should he assume the responsibility of disciplining them as their father. You need to take the lead on this. Otherwise, you will have an unhappy home and an unhappy marriage.
You and your man may be ready, but your children need to be ready, as well. You need to sit down with them and discuss this matter openly. Include them in your plans. Assure them that you will always love them and that no one will ever change that. Be wise enough to prepare your children first, before you consider remarriage. Best wishes!
2007-07-27 08:42:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband died in 2002 and I remarried.....I was 32 when he died. I had an 8 and 11 year old boys to raise......it's been hard but I am blessed......
Getting married is about love......Do you love him enough to marry him?
If you do Don't let the door hit you in the behind. :-)
2007-07-27 08:10:42 · answer #7 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the only one to find the happiness you deserve,talk to your children i hope they will understand and respect your decision.my mother did the same when my father died,and we are happy with our step father.Go for it.GOOD LUCK.
2007-07-27 08:25:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
or maybe this is the reason your 15 year old daughter is so distant. does she like this guy you arewith?
2007-07-27 08:14:42 · answer #9 · answered by baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU DESERVE TO HAVE A MAN IN YOUR LIFE THAT IS GOING TO MAKE YOU HAPPY. GO FOR IT, YOUR KIDS WILL UNDERSTAND. GOOD LUCK!!
2007-07-27 08:10:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋