basically ( I know it was my fault too, but just listen). when i was married, i fell in love with him. he asked me to break off my marraige for him. I did, after that day, i coudlnt track him down ANYWHERE. he only called to brag that he is living with someone else now ( 2 months later) by then it was too late for my marriage. anyway he never said sorry. then he got his new woman pregnant. He called me THE NIGHT she had the baby becuase she had to stay over night for an infection. he asked me to go to THIER house and have sex w/ him while she was in the hospital. of course i said no. i treid to call and SHE answerd i told her exactly what he did. now he beholds a grudge telling me she does not trust him now and its all my fault. i told him sorry but he ruined my marraige too - he never apolgozied. never even said anything about it. yet he will hold a grudge. what is up wit this is this the most selfish guy youve ever heard of ?
2007-07-27 08:04:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You shouldn't care what he thinks. Just move on.
You deserve to be happy and he's a scumbag. You'd never be happy with him.
2007-07-27 08:09:00 · answer #1 · answered by mikeburns55 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He didn't ruin your marriage. It was doomed from the moment you decided your marriage was not good enough and you would break everything off for someone else. Obviously you were not living in marriage heaven.
As for your question, yes, he is a selfish bastard, but the world is full of people who would rather blame everything on other people than recognize their own faults and make them right, because it's harder.
As I see it, you would have a miserable life with this jerk, and you were not too happy with your husband either. Let go, heal your wounds and start over again. Maybe next time you will find someone who will make you happy enough for you not to fall again for this sort of crap.
I wish you the best of luck, and I repeat, let go and move on. Don't poison yourself any further over people who are nothing.
2007-07-27 08:17:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're obviously not going to get an apology, not that you really are entitled to one. You made the decision to break off your marriage with ur previous partner, he didn't hold a gun to your back and do it. It sucks that he played you, but from what he did..do you really want someone like that in your life anyway. It's best to learn from this and move on.
I feel really sorry for that girl he had a baby with. She's going to get really hurt. Sound like you told her what happened only in spite, but then again...I would want someone to tell me if my boyfriend was playing me. So on that I think you did the right thing. But let this go, don't expect an apology any time soon.
2007-07-27 08:11:37 · answer #3 · answered by Marissa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is and a lot of men are. But you have to move on if he apologizes or not, don't let him stop your flow. Because really you ruined your own marriage- affair or not no one is going to tell me who to see and who to leave that's a choice we have to make for our selves. So when what ever happens we can be fine with the outcome because that's a decision we made for ourselves.
2007-07-27 08:10:51 · answer #4 · answered by It's me 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you still want him to want you? It sounds like if he apologized you would be okay again. Let him go. He is a looser out to hurt you and you take it. Move on. You also say he ruined your marriage and it was to late to fix it. You messed up there. Would you go back with someone who dumped you? Just move on.
2007-07-27 08:32:29 · answer #5 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made him look bad in front of his woman. You can bet she gets earfuls of how you're madly in love with him and want him real bad and won't take no for an answer, etc. etc.
2007-07-27 08:14:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is a real jerk and a player, it's a good thing you told his baby's mama before anything else happend for him to ruin her life too.
2007-07-27 08:29:13 · answer #7 · answered by dietzc2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a shame he's with that other woman, because the two of you sound perfect for each other!
2007-07-27 08:12:52 · answer #8 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dont even stress it. Revenge is very sweet? He's gettin exactly what he deserves.
2007-07-27 08:08:24 · answer #9 · answered by yogurlmsbunny 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He didn't ruin your marriage; you did that all by yourself. Start taking responsibility. And you expect an apology?
UN-REAL!
2007-07-27 08:08:40 · answer #10 · answered by ron-D 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋