It seems like MANY people equate love with sex....?

Question

meaning that they feel sex is necessary in achieving a deeper relationship with their partner. Do you think if you were with someone who you absolutly loved, had an amazing relationship with, but could never have sex- would you be happy?? Do you feel sex is necessary in order for you to know how much you are loved???

Answer 1

There should definately be a degree of sexual contact/intamacy between a couple who are in love. I'm I were paralized from the waste down tomorrow. I'd exect my wife to still love me and affectionately touch me, show some kind of sexual contact with me. Or show some kind of love.

They always say actions speak louder than words.

Answer 2

I tend to disagree with my brother Python on this one. If physically together sex is always possible In one form or the other, being give to even just one partner. If not many other things to do. Cuddling, just adoring the presence of each other and their company. Look at the elderly, some not having sex, but in a loving marriage, still holding hands and kissing on the beach always enjoying each others company.
As far as a long distance relationship you are looking forward to time spent with this person you love whether that turns out to be on the phone, computer or someday, in person.

Answer 3

Sex is necessary in order for me to *feel* connected, and, yes, loved. Without it, it feels like there's something missing. If my wife and I go too long without sex (more than 2 weeks or so), I begin to feel lonely and depressed, even if she's right there and we're not mad at each other or anything. Yes, I kind of need it. I'm not saying that it makes rational sense, just telling you how I experience the connection between love and sex with my wife.

Answer 4

to me sex isnt necessary to know how much i'm loved but it is necessary. the reason why is because sex equals intimacy. during sex people are often at a level of vulnerability that they arent at in other parts of their relationship. so for me i couldnt be with someone who i couldnt have sex with because i would feel like i missing a deeper level of intimacy with that person. i think the idea that love and sex are somehow seperate is not true for most people. those two things are often tied up together and thats why successful sexless yet loving relationships are rare.

Answer 5

Whether you are willing to admit it or not sex is required to maintain a relationship.
Sex is a pleasurable way to express closeness.
If you remove sex from the relationship then what makes it stand out from a simple friendship?
What will keep your relationship more important than any other friendship?
If you remove sex from the equation you are running the risk of being replaced.
A marriage without sex are room mates. I've had plenty of room mates and I had no problem getting new ones.
Love is not sex, but love without sex is much weaker than love with sex.

Answer 6

there no such thing as an amazing relationship that is sexless. Sex isnt the only thing but its one of the main things that complete a relationship. There is no one answer...Sex is an expression of love, you need to realize that. If you never have sex with your partner, youre basically saying, "im not interested in you".

so sex is necessary, yes. its thinking like this that ruins relationships. if it wasnt important, it wouldnt be there. you know what im talking about and its not your appendix.

Answer 7

Sex has nothing to do with love and vice-versa
The term "love" is overused.
Simply put men use the concept of 'love" to get sex
Women use sex to get "love"
If I believed in the concept of"love"and could never have sex with said the man I "loved" I wouldn't be happy

Sex isn't necessary to know how much I am "loved" by a man I'd put more stock in actions that took place while we were both fully clothed- respect, consideration, two way communication. I'd believe he was more sincere if the goal of sex wasn't in the equation

Answer 8

Absolutely not! Too many people today get the cart before the horse! The equation should go like the children's ditty, "First comes love, then comes marriage, and then here you come with the baby carriage!" If everyone followed that, divorce lawyers would be a thing of the past.
I learned years ago to pray about everything before you act. It keeps you out of a lot of trouble, if you wait and do the right thing. Love, Sarah

Answer 9

I'm not saying it's the right thing or the best thing, but sex is a very important part of a relationship to me and I honestly don't think a marriage or relationship would be as deep for me if there wasn't a physical sexual connection between us. Again, just my opinion.

Answer 10

sex is not necessary to show you how much you are loved. but it is a way for two people to express their love. it is a bi product of love. as far as loving someone and not having sex. i'm really not sure if i could. don't get me wrong it would not change my love for them but i could see it definately affecting both of our happiness. it is a loss of intimacy. sex is a beautiful thing that brings two people closer than anything else can. not only that losing sex would take away my dream of wanting to give my hubby children of his own. which is extremely important to both of us. see happiness is affected. sex is not a tool for happiness but the results of sex can bring happiness. make sense?!? but it in no which way shape or form should be based on or replace love. love is an emotion a feeling. sex is physical closeness they are in no which way shape or form interchangable.