This is weird...my wife and I got married in July, but her parents want her to get a divorce so that we can have a real wedding next summer. Now I'm wondering, is that pointless? how long will it take for a divorce to be final, and what if we live together? Can we still get a divorce. I'm a New york resident and she's a connecticut resident. We're both going to be living together in NY. What should I do, and how does the whole process work?
2007-07-27 07:35:41 · 6 answers · asked by JASON M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well what im asking is, if we get a divorce how long will it take if we want to get remarried next may. Thats my question pretty much, and is it possible.
2007-07-27 07:43:01 · update #1
First of all this is completley unnecessary. If by real wedding the parents mean in a church or other religious ceremony than there is no need. A divorce is a legal term that means the "state" no longer sees you as a married couple and so you are free to continue on as a single person for tax purposes, census purposes etc.
A religious ceremony is only seen as a marriage in the church and then you still have to have a marriage license signed and notarized by someone authorized to do so. Although they go hand and hand, the church and state are separate deals.
For example, if you and your wife were married by a justice of the peace in city hall, then in the eyes of U.S. law you are married and carry each others resposnibilities. You can marry in a church whenever you want and most religions will not consider you married until you do that paritcular religions ceremony.
Now for divorce, divorce will run you $2,500.00 and upwards even if uncontested. An annulment is not the same as divorce, it is a term used by certain religions (usually Christian based) to pardon and excuse the parties having split up and I believe you still have quite a process to go through for that too. The state does not consider an anullment the same as divorce and so you may still need to proceed with divorce to fully separate.
So in closing, if you love each other and want to stay married, then do so and as for family, if it means that much to them, throw another wedding with vows and traditions the way they want it. Do not get a divorce for this it would be expensive and a huge waste of time!!!
By the way, there is another issue you would face due to the different residences. You can only bring an action in NY if you have been living there for over 6 Mos., also in NY you need grounds for divorce and they are pretty harsh. No such thing as irreconcileable differences here. You need to make some pretty big accusations to get a judge to grant a divorce in NY. Even if you went through a collaborative or mediation method, it is still a long process. At least 6 months but most likely longer!
2007-07-27 07:55:09 · answer #1 · answered by grateful living 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I m not sure why you need a divorce, if it's for purposes of having a wedding, then you don't need the divorce, you could go ahead and have a wedding ceremony, there is something weired here, you live in ny and she lives in ct, why are you not living together, you were married in July, this is July, so which July are you referring to, if it is this year and you are not living together you may want to hire a lawyer so you can have the marriage annulled, otherwise a divorce in new york may take anywhere from 6 months to a year, it would depend on which county you live in too, westchester , queens and long island are quicker than Bronx, Brooklyn and Manhattan, it may be a while before you tie the knot again if you want to wait for a divorce
2007-07-27 07:47:31 · answer #2 · answered by mimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A divorce in New York takes one year from the date of legal separation. All the effort in NY is done during the legal separation (terms and conditions custody, division of property etc) The divorce is final after 12 months.
That said, I dont understand this whole issue. The parents are being very petty, and obviously have no concern for the sanctity of marraige, but want to throw a party. You can have a second wedding ceremony without being divorced. It is not illegal. You do exactly the same thing, say your vows, just dont sign another marraige certificate. Any minister will perform this.
2007-07-27 07:48:01 · answer #3 · answered by patrick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A divorce becomes finalonce its registered in the public records dept which is uually 30 days after Judges ruling. I believe NY has a 7day waiting period after filing for license so next spring should give you ample time. Alo dont inform the courts of what youre doing or you may never get divorced
2007-07-27 07:48:47 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused. If you're married by the civil court you can always have a church wedding. You don't need to divorce first. I may be misunderstanding your question.
2007-07-27 07:39:08 · answer #5 · answered by Hope 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2014-09-08 11:00:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well r u sure the girls parents like u ...it seems like a plan of getting rid of u and saving there daughter.....chk ure facts here/ why do u want a divorce ....i mean have a church wedding ...divorce doesnt make any sense
2007-07-27 07:47:06 · answer #7 · answered by roli 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋