I found emails from a dating website on our computer and he has since changed his password so I cannot log on in his name (which I always have) - went to the site these emails were from and registered myself. Found his profile and he said he was separated and looking for some fun! What would you do?
2007-07-27 07:31:26 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It could be he's just curious and looking at these sites with no intention of actually meeting anyone? I don't know
2007-07-27 07:52:47 · update #1
with your profile set up a meeting with him...
Instantly Busted!!
you 1
Him 0
Then it's over.
that would be a big kick in chops! You need to do this and get back to me. and take a picture of the look on his face when you show up, I'd like to see this.
2007-07-27 07:35:21 · answer #1 · answered by Sean C 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
What he is doing is not right. If he loved you he wouldn't be on dating sites. One of my girlfriends Bf's did this to her. She ended up creating an account to be able to see his account and saw the same thing you did. They are now broken up because she found out he had been cheating on her with a lot of other girls. My advice to you is get out of that relationship. Men come and go, and you will find someone better for you. Good luck!
2007-07-27 14:48:00 · answer #2 · answered by s o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would set him up. Create your own profile and start trying to chat with him and see where it goes.
He might have no intention of ever cheating and is maybe just a bit bored. if that is the case you need to try to figure out what is missing in the relationship. if he suggests meeting you then he is a sh*thead and you are better off knowing.
2007-07-27 14:48:11 · answer #3 · answered by Rags 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well - you heard it from his own mouth. He's intending to cheat on you (if he hasn't already). Does he have to actually sleep with someone before you realize he has an unfaithful heart?
And the first poster's idea is classic. Lead him on for a month or so - make him believe he's found an easy girl to hook up with and when you agree to meet he's busted. You can even serve him with the papers at the meeting. ;)
2007-07-27 14:36:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First thing is communication! I don't believe that you have to babysit your spouse/boyfriend/partner etc, if they are going to cheat they are going to cheat. No matter what you do, change his password, follow him, pay a detective etc. Trust is a big thing and if you don't trust then just end it.
Trust & Communication, Love!!
You could get internet spy programs! However you find out somehting you don't really truely want to know, then what????
Just tell him to leave you first before he cheats on you.
2007-07-27 14:54:11 · answer #5 · answered by sbratt2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry Maddie but yes, he's looking to cheat on you. I agree with the first answerer, set up a profile for yourself and arrange to meet him.
2007-07-27 14:40:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would go to his profile and leave it there on screen let the screen saver come up, don't say a thing, let him come home and find the screen up, and s**t his pants, he'll will be pretty sure you know, but he wont be positive, you act like nothing is wrong and it will eat him up inside, my mom used to do this to me when i was a teenager with my cigarettes and other stuff trust me its awful,
but i also like noruleschris's idea, maybe after a week ask him if he wants to see whos got more in their in box
2007-07-27 14:38:52 · answer #7 · answered by eyesinthedrk 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OH MY......I would loose it~!
Are you kidding me....you need to seriously talk to him and let him know you know exactly what he's doing. Not to mention I think he doesn't want to be married....and after all if he lists himself as separated maybe you should make that a reality. If this was my husband he'd be out the door.
2007-07-27 14:37:03 · answer #8 · answered by Sara M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
guys have 3 states of mind. They are cheating, they are thinking about cheating or they are thinking about the consequences of cheating. I think he is ignoring number 3 and working on 1 or 2.
2007-07-27 16:42:07 · answer #9 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with him. Tell him what you found out so far and confront him. No yelling or screaming or name calling just talk. Find out why he is doing this. Act like its nothing. I suggest marraige counseling and maybe spice it up in the bedroom.
2007-07-27 15:35:44 · answer #10 · answered by youcandoit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋