Who moves on faster the man or woman from a long-term relationship break up?

Question

From observing my friends who are gettting divorced and breaking up:

It seems that women get over the break up faster at the beginning and then hard on them later on.

For the male, it's hard at the beginning, but then they get over it, and then easy later on.

Agree? Disagree?

Answer 1

I agree, a woman can get all caught up in the "I'm not taking his sh*t anymore", then later on she can think, "maybe I wasn't thinking clearly at the time..maybe we could've worked it out". And I guy is probably going to think about it more clearly from the beginning. Wondering why it failed, where it went wrong, then he accepts it and moves on. Women tend to think "what if...", thats when its harder to move on.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I disagree on certain aspects of your opinion! I think that the man gets on faster in the part physically, I think it's alot easier for a man to have a sexual relationship with another woman alot sooner(most the time while still married or in a relationship) than a woman can!! Woman tend to have alot more emotion involved, and need that emotional commitment or connection, if you will, to actually BE with another man. Whether it's after a divorce or while single!! Woman also have a lower percentage of cheating on their significate other!! I think the only thing to alot of men hard after their divorce or break-up, is dealing with the thought that they cannot posses them any longer, and their pride and ego cause them to be jealous which to a woman who has low self esteem, it would seem to be a act of love or careing, and then once the man is over it, the woman ends of hurt because of those thoughts or hopes that there might be hope it'll work.

Answer 4

I just think it depends. I was divorce after over 20 years. The day the divorce was finalized, I thought I would be devastated. Instead I walked out of the courtroom like the weight of the world had been lifted from my shoulders and I was able to move on quickly and completely.

However, living with my X for over 20 years made it really easy.

Answer 5

I agree and disagree. I think anyone (man or woman) who moves on too quickly is just trying to fill the void. But sometimes towards the end of a relationship you kind of "shut down" and start getting over it before it's even ended, that's how people fall out of love.

Answer 6

It has nothing to do with men or women, it has everything to do with the situation and the cause for the break up. If the women is cheating it will be harder for the man, if the man cheated it will be harder for the women, if they just couldn't egt along or abusive was involved again it all depends on the person and their out look on life and on the situation. Some people adjust well to change others don't... Men and Women alike.

Answer 7

Whoever reads Creative Divorce, Stop, You're Driving Me Crazy, The Divorce Handbook, and also, whoever gets into support groups, usually at a church or Y for separated and single parents. You have to know you'll be OK. It took me also to go into some therapy and realize my ex was terrible to me, and that I'd be far better off without her.


That turned out to be a God-send. I haven't spoken one word, not one, to my ex in over 15 years. Only spoke directly to my now grown kids.

Answer 8

I think the begininng of the break up is harddest on the women and the beginning of the break up is the easiest for a man. Women feel the sadness, men feel their pride. So they won't adm,it or feel anything until they really know it is over. I think

Answer 9

There are so many "what ifs" in a break up. Who did the breaking up I think plays a big part in it. Why the break up happened also. Men do not show their feelings like Women do, so it is hard to say who takes longer.

Answer 10

Depends on the person but I think after a break up many women feel that they werent "wanted" badly enough and need to move on to prove to themselves that someone IS interested in them and women need attention. They need to feel loved.